Will I regret NOT being a stay-at-home mother?

Question

My husband and I are planning on starting a family. He is going to stay home and raise the child while I work. Will I regret this?

Answer 1

Remember that whatever choice we make in this life has its benefits and losses. That's why the grass is always greener on the other side, because we tend to not see other people's troubles but we know our own ordeals too well. So: think carefully, list out the positive and negative sides of working vs staying at home, and once you've made a decision, never regret it when the going gets tough. Things are bound to get rough sometimes anyway, no matter which path you choose.

Answer 2

I took off a year with my first 2 children, and when I returned worked part time. With youngest, my husband became injured and I had to work 2 jobs to keep the bills paid.
I do not regret doing what I did, I really had no choice. But I do resent that I didn't get to spend much time at all with nurturing my youngest.
I do not regret having had the time I did with my children in their formative years. There are many loving memories that can never be taken from me.
Our financial situation worked well enough with me working part time, and it gave me enough adult social interaction to feel a part of the adult world.
I have 2 sisters that both work as well as their husbands, full time. I cannot fathom giving my children to child care on a full time basis, but it has worked for them. My point is you have many choices.
I am aware of my priorities, and my family's priorities. Sometimes they change, and I have to readjust what I'm doing to keep the balance.
I don't know if you will regret it, but if you come to have a change in priority, perhaps your husband will be able to accomidate you.

Answer 3

I am a stay at home mom and at times I wish I could go to work but just one look at your child and you will want to stay home. The kids are much more happier and you don't miss out on the little thing like the funny faces, first words, or first steps. I think you should try it for a while if you don't like go back to work. Good Luck!

Answer 4

No if you have a good husband and a good father for your child that will work out fine. But he may change his mind because it not that easy to stay home and raise your child. I stayed home and all I ever wanted was to work, now I glad I did because I would have missed out on so much. Now kids are grown and I work for a living, wish I could stay home. Good Luck.

Answer 5

If you want to be a stay-at-home mama, maybe you should talk to your husband about this. Speaking from experience, I'm a stay at home mother to my son and I couldn't imagine doing anything else. When I finally do finish school, and get a job, it's going to be hard going to work, and leaving him with a baby-sitter, or daycare. It's really up to you and your husband, as long as you're not working so much that you don't see your kids, I'm sure it'll be fine!

Answer 6

Girl heck naw!!!
You get to shop for clothes.
He's behind will need to cook.
Shoo I want a Mr. Mom myself.
You get to cuddle with him and the kids at night after all the drama is over and your spending time at the office with grown folks. With all of today's technology you could view your homelife with a nanny cam if you wanted to from the office.

Answer 7

why if u have the job and ur husband not go on.what u will do for living is better so for ur family specially ur children later.dont hear what they talking do what u think is good and finish the problem

Answer 8

yes u will. u will feel like u missed out on everything u kid(s) did. like they first steps, 1st words...ect