long story short...husband and i separated in Nov.....got back together, got prego, had an abortion due to unstable relationship, worried it was too soon, worried about deviating from my 18 month old son, worried for bringing another baby into hostile environment if things didn't work out, financial issues etc. many reasons, including pressure from family...anyway, 8 weeks later, after the abortion(the last few days) we started having sex again, condum broke and i believe it is now my ovulation period...if i am prego i am not going to have another abortion but i am fearful that i wont be able to carry full term or our baby will have birth defects..mind you also that a lot of those issues have been resolved ....please dont judge me, just answer my question, my husband and i have been doing great for the past 4 months...i know that's not long but i refuse to have another abortion....especially when we are happy, we've been working on our problems for some time now and things are great
2006-08-02 10:45:20 · 9 answers · asked by brookeaconte 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Good for you for being unwilling to abort another child if you are indeed pregnant. Keep in mind that many women who have never aborted a child have the condition called "cervical incompetence" (weakening of the cervix), and it is manageable. You MAY need a few stitches in your cervix or you may need to be on bedrest for a time. The important thing is to be honest with your doctor about your concerns and abortion history, so that he can monitor your cervix throughout your pregnancy. My sister-in-law has an incompetent cervix, and I believe three of her four children were born prematurely. They are all healthy, happy, and perfectly normal today. This country has wonderful care for premature babies, and besides, if you take the proper precautions, this may not even be a problem. Remember, your cervix may not have been damaged in your abortion.
Regardless, if you are pregnant, you should not kill your baby because of what MIGHT happen. Your past abortion is not your present baby's fault, and he or she deserves the very best care you can give him or her. You will never forgive yourself if you abort. You will always wonder, what if everything would have been okay?
Remember, too, that the more abortions you commit, the greater your chances of complications and health problems in the future.
Below are some sites to encourage you to do the right thing, if you are pregnant. Some of them may be painful to you, due to your recent abortion. However, it's important that you have all the facts. Also, if you would like to receive free post-abortion counseling from women who have also aborted children and/or go through a free online post-abortion study, visit http://www.healinghearts.org
Best wishes to you.
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
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2006-08-02 13:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uterus should be stable enough to carry to term, BUT I suggest you tell your OB/GYN once you find out if you are pregnant. It would be similar to getting pregnant right after having a miscarriage. Lots of women have done it and have had successful pregnancies, but every woman is different. As for birth defects - your child shouldn't have any that are related to the abortion. Good luck.
2006-08-02 10:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would think so...i mean the doctors say you can have sex 6 weeks after you give birth (which could untlmatly lead to pergnancy) and i am sure that giving birth is more traumatic (physically not emotionally) than the abortion was.
i hope that all works out well for you and in anticipation of the other hateful answers you are going to get i am sorry...some people dont understand how hard it is to go thru an abortion...you have my sympathy
2006-08-02 11:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not the OBGYN can put 3 or 4 stitches in it and you could have a high risk pregnancy and have to make sure that you are watched for placenta privera.
2006-08-02 10:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by daddyssoccermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi-
you shouldnt have any problems carrying a baby full term....
you dont have to explain yourself to anyone.
i hope you and your husband and little boy can relax and look forward to the arrival of your new baby.
i really do wish you all the best. px
2006-08-02 11:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by p.xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably is strong enough but you need go to dr. asap and get checked thats where you will get the answers but there is always chance your body could abort itself or that your not pregnant.good luck
2006-08-02 10:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by hildathemaid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am glad you two are doing well -- but what happens the next time you are not doing real well?? This baby is here to stay, so ready or not -- tell your OB/GYN and let him advise.
2006-08-02 10:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be able to carry the baby full term after killing ur other baby
2006-08-02 11:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is, hope your family life gets better.
2006-08-02 10:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by rena2169 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋