I mean one minute we are on our first date the next we are almost living together. My relationships have yet to last more then a year. I was wondering if their were anyone out there that has had their fast moving relationship last.
2006-08-02 10:38:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you go from courting to cohabitating very quickly you actually do the relationship a huge disservice ( some would speculate having sex too quickly does also...I'm mentally conflicted on that point), and here's why: When you have a terrific date, ( the kind where you had a great time and, you hate for it to end) you go home, re-experience it mentally, and put all of the feelings associated with it into perspective. Maybe you even call a friend and give them all the details! That's how we first decide how we feel about another person. It's fresh, new, exciting and there's this air of the unknown churning in the mix, too. But, let's say you move in together soon after that ( you're in that "I like you alot, we get along" stage, or maybe a "we have pretty good sex" stage, but it's not really emotionally deepened for either of you, yet) thereby robbing yourselves of that after-date reflection time: you've begun killing the mystery of the relationship, because that's when we know we've found someone special or that we're in love...in those solitary moments when we put it all into perspective. ( Then we have to run it past our buddies to get their two cents worth.) Living together too soon kills all of that, plus there's the added romance-killing reality of coming face-to-face with the other person's quirky habits before you grow to love them enough to overlook them or tolerate them. It's a matter of having events out of sequence that kills a lot of budding relationships before they have a chance to adequately take root.
2006-08-02 11:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 10⤊ 3⤋
No, never had a fast and furious relationship last. Relationships take time and effort. If you really want to know someone, it takes time. Congrats to those who did make it work, but I bet it was tough!
2006-08-02 17:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same position and am now dating someone and taking things very slow and just letting them flow. I suggest you do the same, it will save you pain and suffering in the end. I hope you and I both get some good answers. Good Luck.
2006-08-02 17:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine did and we have been married for 13 yrs and together 14 as of this december.
2006-08-02 17:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋