Okay, in my religion, you are told not to date until you are 16 and I am all for that. But this boy that I really love and that I think likes me just turned 16 last month and I have to wait until May. I know that I could wait that long but I am scared that he won't be able to and he will start dating now. I don't think I could handle seeing him with another girl, and even if I could talk to him about it there is nothing we could do until I turn 16. Please give me some advice. I am so scared! I have had a rough year and I can't handle more hurt!
2006-08-02 10:36:01 · 33 answers · asked by malohalo_89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sorry to hear that you have had a bad year. I agree 16 is young enough for dating. Please don't worry about this boy if he feels the same way about you then he will wait for you. If he doesn't wait for you try not to get too upset because it means that it wasn't meant to be. You sound such a lovely young girl, I am sure there are plenty of nice young men out there who will be happy to date you. Keep your chin up and I wish you happiness.
2006-08-02 10:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a religion that dictates the age at which one can date. If you are only a few months away from 16 talk about it with your parents. If you can't see the boy until May and he dates someone else, don't worry about it. There are plenty of boys to date honey and they are just waiting for you to turn 16. Be patient! All good things in good time.
2006-08-02 10:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that not dating until you're 16 is the right thing to do - and you don't live by that then you will probably regret it later. If you did date him, wouldn't you be feeling guilty all the time? You don't have to have everything now, why not just be friends with him now and even if you do still like him when you are 16 then you can try to win him round, especially if he knows you waited for him.
2006-08-02 10:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mordent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an idiot. You will be 17 one day and realize what is important in life and a 15 year old boy isn't it. Plus, you won't be the same person now that you will be a few years from now and then a few years after that. Worry about love when you know what love is. Classify this as lust and move on, you don't need the distraction.
2006-08-02 11:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This rule is to generalised.
Some parts of a religion can be wrong. This doesn't mean you are against god but simply that you do not think that the religious rules reflect what God really wishes.
Being a good godly person is different from being a good religious person.
Religion can be good or bad. It bases itself around God but doesn't always represent him correctly.
Waiting until 16 sounds sensible but of course there will be exceptions to this rule. You may be one of them. Do what you believe to be right and God can have no argument with you in my opinion.
2006-08-02 10:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Young Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a deep breath...now answer this question. How could you "love" someone you don't even really know? Depending on how much you value your religion, you will just have to wait. You have the rest of your life. May might seem like forever, but it's not.
2006-08-02 10:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the religion you are involved in doesn't reflect what your real beliefs are. In other words, how can you believe in something that doesn't stand for the attitude you currently have? Follow your own path-you'll find in your life that religion is a thing for the 'masses'-not the individual. Live your life according to your own experience, not what some silly made up belief system is telling you to do.
2006-08-02 10:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, if you wait is not going to be the same when you reach 16. I was in love with a friend, but she didn't love me. And when she love me my love was not the same for her.
So don't wait or then you'll feel that is not what you expected to be. Also, God never nention in the bible when was the right age to start dating or loving there is no relgion that can support that. No religion can tell your body when to grow, love, think etc.Your heart will tell you when its ready to be loved Don't hide your love it hurts alot.
Go for it. Love doesn't want to wait.
2006-08-02 11:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many problems when you are 15. I tell you what, if he is truly the boy for you then he will respect you and your religious beliefs and wait until you are 15. Do not compromise your beliefs for a guy because I promise you that your god will be around a lot longer than he is.
2006-08-02 10:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't see any point to that rule (kinda like I don't) then don't follow it. Do you really think that as soon as you turn 16 you're going to go through this lifechanging transfiguration to automatically become right for guys? psh no, its bull****. Nothing wrong with being part of a religion but still having your own ideas. Go for it :) and good luck
2006-08-02 10:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋