Why cant men understand women's delicate feelings and emotions?

Question

Why can't I have a conversation about feelings and emotions with a man. I can't even talk that way with my father, reason we never talk, because that's all I talk about: Feelings.

Answer 1

Men and women, are totally different animals, and we are what we are, and have been generations.
Men, are the hunters, the women, the nesters, the gatherers, the one who bear the children, and raise them.
Men, although we do have feelings, aren't raised to share them, and feel very uncomfortable about listening to women as they want to share theirs.
When asked what we feel about something, we usually don't have a clue. We can feel man, angry, happy, sad, and so on.
but to put those feelings into words, just isn't in us.
One phrase that sends a shudder through every man's back, is that one, where she says, "Honey, we need to talk" .
That's where our fight or flight, reaction, comes into being.
As we can't fight the ladies, and flight isn't always an option, we clam up. We stutter, and spit, and just hope to hell, you gals will give it up and move on.
So ladies, give us a break, Please, whenever you can, avoid the getting in touch with your feelings. If you need that, talk to your female friends, just leave us be.
We would all be happy if you would.

Answer 2

First off, let me say that not all men are cold and not able to talk about emotions.

Understanding guys means that you have to look at why we act the way we do, and why we do things like conversation differently then women do....

Not all of us know about all the stuff girls do. In fact, most don't. We are too busy getting a career going, finding a great job that we love, and finding the ideal woman to share our lives with. There isn't any time to figure out all this emotional stuff with the plate being 3/4 full all the time. It takes a lifetime for some to figure all this stuff out, and when we take the time to do so, then we can talk about emotional stuff with you.

However, most will think like that.

There are some, like myself, who have all of that already and have taken the time out to figure out what it is that we need to learn when it comes to emotional issues and try to understand them.

Here is what i've discovered so far.:

We want open communication first, because that builds trust

We only want genuine friendships because those will last a lifetime.

We believe in having values . Trust, Honesty, Respect, Caring, Sharing, Appreciation, A sense of Humor, and Unconditional Love are just some of the values we want to share with the opposite sex, always.

We very much value your sense of Trust and your sense of People and we respect that about you , the opposite sex, very much.


There, i said it all. It is only a start. Yes, some of us can understand emotions well and do want conversation about anything or everything that you want to talk about too.

Please understand, not all men are not able to express emotions. It takes time, for some it takes a lifetime, for others, it takes some common sense.

Answer 3

I am a man and let me explain what I know of this. Men have found that if he shows his emotions to a woman, a lot of times the woman will use those emotions against him later. That makes a man feel as if she considers him a weakling and unstable. We also notice that women go for bad boys with this bad attitudes and behaviors. Therefore if thats the kind of guy you chase after then we become one of those guys so we can get a girl. As for talking with your father. I have a teenage daughter that I try desperately to discuss things with and she wont. I want to be there for her when she has a life question or mystery.

Answer 4

Mr. Chivalry says, "Genetically, men are physical beings and women are emotional. Why? Testosterone and estrogen. If you pumped a man full of estrogen, you could talk to him like he was one of the girls, all day every day, and vice versa. I keep seeing these comments about men are stupid and girls are weird, and crap like that. The truth is, men and women are all ignorant of each other. Not to be insulting or anything like, but what I mean is, we can't genetically step in each others' shoes, and we will never be able to. Now we can gain some understanding about each other and figure out what makes us tick. If no effort is made in that perspective, then we are all guilty of being ignorant, and there's no excuse. But nobody can call the other person dumb because he/she can't figure out exactly how the other gender thinks."

Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

Answer 5

From a man's point of view: we do understand your feelings, its just that you become so emotional about things that we concider to be nothing. stop looking for sympathy. sympathy you won't even find from your female friend. once you tell her, she would listen closely and try to make you think that she really understand and then she'll tell some one else and they all will laugh about it because they all have the answer to your problem and you don't. so stop your weeping and get on with your life. unscrew yourself, then go get screwed. trust me, you'll feel good after its all over. --- not a quickie. GET IT DONE, I MEAN DONE, where you feel it days late. then you'll know, that what you was feeling was nothing at all. you too may even laugh about it, and you might have a new friend.

Answer 6

Men have feelings till they get something done. Then they go back into neanderthol mode.

Its not that men don't understand a woman's delicate feelings - they just don't have them.

You CAN however find a man that will listen to your feelings, not because he has to but because he wants to. Just keep looking.

Answer 7

The problem is that you run your mouth and talk about absolutely nothing. Men listen to women's feelings provided they speak specifically about their feelings. But if women just sit there and ramble on as means to vent their feelings then they get ignored.

Answer 8

men have a hard time expressing feelings and emotions . and talking about them as well . i think for them it's a sign of weakness.

Answer 9

actually its because women don't understand the feelings and emotions of men...

Answer 10

bc men have this image of not being able to show their emotions.. just the way that society has made the image of men.