My parents only want me to date boys that have the same religion that I do. But what if I like a guy and he likes me and asks me out, but he has a different religion?
Thank you all for answering!
2006-08-02 10:24:05 · 61 answers · asked by meowie711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IMHO, your issue isn’t how to turn the guy away, your issue is how to resolve your desires from that of your parents. Assuming that your parents are normal and well-adjusted, they simply prefer that your eventual husband shares their (your?) religion. While successful dating could lead to marriage, it doesn’t have to.
If you want to date this boy, than have an honest adult conversation with your parents. Tell them that you want to explore relationships without regard for religious affiliation simply to see what it is like. By limiting your choices they are planting the seeds of doubt in your future marriage and it would actually be healthier for you to be free to experiment before it gets too serious.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 10:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because you go out with someone doesn't mean you are going to marry him. Have fun, if you want to date a guy that is not the same religion so be it. Maybe each of you can learn to be more open towards different and new things and actually enjoy that about some one else. My wife and I were different religions when we got married. She was raised baptist, and I catholic. We found a common ground in the Presbyterian church and have become very active in our church. Maybe the guy you like isn't a very religious person, just because he says he is ....X......doesn't mean he can't change or believe in other things, beside the fact that a lot of religions over lap.
Don't let your parents make decisions for you.
2006-08-02 10:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy, then just take some time and talk it over with him. I'm not advocating either of you to change your religion, but maybe the two of you could just reach a compromise, or not bring religion into the matter until you have explored the level of interest you both have in being with each other.
If you both can date without the non-religious issues posing a problem, then the two of you(with help from your parents, your clergy, or others whom you trust and respect) can determine if the religious issues might pose any problems.
2006-08-02 10:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jim T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it shouldn't have anything to do with religion, I think it should have everything to do with the boy. If he is not of your religion, but he is still a good person, then talk to your parents about it. Just because someone is of the same religion as you doesn't mean they are good people!
2006-08-02 10:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by malohalo_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "My parents only want me to date boys that have the same religion that I do".
2006-08-02 10:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to do this but the truth is that you will be eliminating a lot of trouble, contention, heartbreak and god knows what else if you marry within your religion if you are strongly religious. I have become sort of non-religious with the passing of time as I see how people kill each other over religion and how organized religion only seems to want money first, second and last, and so on. Why can't we all just get along????? Religion, skin color, politics, yaddah; they all seem like such stupid things to fight and kill each other over.
2006-08-02 10:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's so difficult! I'm sure you can be friends with this boy, but maybe it would be good to join a social group with your synagogue or church and get to know more guys who are the same religion.
My parents felt the same way when I was young and I didn't like it. Later in life, I thought they were right. But, not for many years.
Best wishes from a grandma-aged person
2006-08-02 10:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about the truth?
Tell him that you like him a lot, but your parents want you to only date someone of the same religion, so ask him if you guys can be friends.
God Bless.
-Vic
2006-08-02 10:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Vic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice 2 kno that ure so obedient 2 ure religion & parents. U can always tell the guy abt. ure beliefs & get him 2 convert 2 ure religion. There's numerous ways 2 do that. Good luck girl ....
2006-08-02 10:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For crying out loud... Will religions ever stop destroying people???
Civil wars, crusades, mass suicides all in the name of a god or another.
And now this...
Tell your parents that this guy's god isn't too powerful and you would never convert to his religion :-p
2006-08-02 10:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by manosfantasyart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋