i went out with this guy for almost 2 years and we broke up because supposingly he wasn't feeling the love nemore. he moved to a whole different state and after about a month i got a text saying that he wanted me back and he felt stupid for breaking up with me, he says that he feels depressed and although i love him 2 and i want us to get back together but i dont think thats its going to work out,especially over the phone. i dont know if he just wants me back to ease away his pain or because he really wants this. he's cofusing me should i get back with him or just leave it alone? i dont wanna hurt him! help!
2006-08-02 10:11:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put it this way, if you have to question it don't do it.
2006-08-02 10:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Callie Ann ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Wait at least a year or two before you get back with him, if you do. Remove him from your life completely for the time being. He is just hanging on to those old feelings. But he was the one who broke it off, so don't be jerked around by him. Getting back together now would most likely be a huge mistake. Keep limited contact with him for the time being until he accepts that you are not in an intimate relationship anymore.
2006-08-02 17:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you have 8 answers already but I will put in my 2 cents.
I think you are making more out of this question that is necessary.
I f this guy still loves you give & you love him I say give it a try. The other questions is; Does he still live out of state, is he back in the same state you live in now or is he asking you to move there? I say go slow but give it a try. Men nature sometimes slower that women. He might have been honest in his answer to you. Everyone makes a mistake, I say give you & him a chance at happiness. Good luck.
2006-08-02 17:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tanker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that it can work but your going to probaby have to move where he is at or is going to have to come back to where you are. Because, the distance thing will eventually take a toll on your relationship especially if you guys are use to being together all the time. Sometimes, one of you moving and trying to move on is all it takes for each of you to find that true love again. It worked for me and my boyfriend and we went through a similar situation basically if it is meant to be it will be. Both of you will just have to work at finding ways to make it work for you. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-02 17:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Revea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup its a rebound text girl... I'm not a hater but I hate seeing girls get hurt and dead relationships to keep on painfully dragging. If he was serious he would move back and not put the pressure of a long dist. relationship on you. Come on you have to be crazy if you think a long dist. relationship would work out to begin with. he most likely is starting to picture you being all happy, kissing and making love to another guy. that is like getting stabbed in the heart over and over for a guy, I know...
2006-08-02 17:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my only advice is to look back over what the last few months of your relationship were like, then look at the breadk up. Were you able to have open lines of communication or not, do you share the same beliefs? etc... how did you react when he left? how did he? he could just be wanting to get rid of the guilt and this is his way to appease that. so you have to look inside yourself and seek out the answers with God. And look at what is best for you. no one else. And you need to make sure this is really what you want. being single isnt all bad.
2006-08-02 17:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by jnok12356789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My vote is NO...do not get back with him...it would be a long distance relationship now, the chances are poor it would last long...it sounds like he's not having any luck in his new location, so is fishing old waters (so to speak)...he needs to meet someone local to him, as you do you (when you're ready to date)...
Look at it this way...things would likely have fallen apart between y'all when he moved anyway...it may have just taken longer...thank him for his interest, tell him you'll always think fondly of him, but you both need to move on...then do it...
2006-08-02 17:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke the dedication, it is his job to earn it back.
Tell him it was his decision to move away, and if he wants you back, he is going to have to find a way to move back - but even if he does there are no gaurentees that life will be perfect.
Don't worry about hurting him. If he is depressed then he is going to hurt regardless of what you do.
2006-08-02 17:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is do you love him? Also ask him if he really does love you. If yes ask him to move back. If he says he can't give some time.when hes ready and if he really does love you he'll come back. It does sound like you love him and he loves you.If my advice doesn't work then I'm terribly sorry.I hope it all works out.
2006-08-02 17:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by girsgal1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fly solo, babe! Take a nice long flight far away from this guy.
Oh yea... he already flew away from you, then I'd close off my runway to any LOW flying return flights and keep my plane moving onward, upward, and wayward.
You could fly on over here, sweetie...
2006-08-02 17:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Silly Little Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do please do not get back with this guy. He texted you after a month probably because he hasn't yet found another girl - do not fall for his crap ! He has already told you that he doesn't feel love for you anymore, do not allow him to use you, unless of course you want to be a door mat !
2006-08-02 17:17:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋