how do i control my 13 year old sons temper and moods?

Answer 1

i sympathise with you totally....i've already gone through the teenage years with my older daughters and now i'm going through them with my younger kids.....one of which is a 14 year old boy.

i dont think there is any quick and easy solution,i wish there was.....my son is certainly pushing the boundaries......and know how hard it is to stay calm and not have a go back.....

i did try talking to my son and said that if he'd treat me with more respect then i would do the same for him....it did work for a while,but not long enough lol.....i've also tried embarrassing him in front of his mates.....that does have an effect,cos his mates then tell him he's out of order and i hope makes him think a bit about his behaviour.....

the fact is there is no easy answer...whether its boys or girls the teenage years are hard and are all about how far you can go.....all you can do is stay sane,be positive and wait.

i'm sorry i cant be of more help....but its important that you know your not on your own and there is light at the end of the tunnel......good luck and if you need some one to share your problems with you can always email me...

Answer 2

Get rid of the junk foods, foods flooded with sugar,etc. Get rid of the computer and video games, especially the games depicting violence. Get you son off the couch and into some sports, wrestling classes, karate classes. They will help redirect alot of the emotions he is having and teach discipline. Biologically, he is going through a storm of emotions. He couldn't get you a reason why he is feeling this way right now, except for the generic excuse that he feels he should be able to get whatever he wants and should be able to do whatever he wants. Most likely you hear 'I don't know' when you ask him why he's so moody.
Choose your battles. Provide structure and discipline. Do not give into your son if he is constantly demanding things just to 'keep the peace'.
Seeing a counselor will also help by serving as a 'go-between' in trying to help your son through this transition.
Try remembering what it was like when you were at that age. And don't say you never went through something like that, we all have. Testing limits, wanting to get our way, thinking that we were 'adults' and could 'take care of ourselves', being angry at everyone and everything and not being able to explain why.
Puberty is and always will be a real pain in the ***.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

you cant control his temper thats down to him not you,sit him down and have a chat,find out what is troubling him,there is something as he would not be this angry.i brought up two lads,and we have always been able to talk to each other so we can solve any problems that may arise.have a chat dont shout or lose your cool with him and he should open up to you,if he dont let the man of the house try,if there is non how about a male family member try.if no luck there,u can always get him to e mail me to talk if wishes.good luck

Answer 4

Look into what [usually junk] foods he is getting which contain artificial colours, artificial sweeteners and as Julie said at the top SUGAR. Sounds like he is pretty normal for a 13 year old who is used to getting his own way! LOL

Answer 5

Well firstly it may have something to do with your little ones sugar/salf intake and i think you should keep an eye on his breakfast cereal and crisps ect.
And also i think he is having mood swings due to puberty and i think he is doing it maybe because he is not getting what he wants or he may just have something onhis mind like "growing up"

Answer 6

Cut out all of the junk food from his diet and give him fresh veg and fruit, fresh meat and fresh fruit juice instead of fizzy ones. Junk food is full of chemicals which cause mood swings and makes them aggressive...I did this and my son is so much better and alot calmer.

Good luck

Answer 7

You tell me Im having exactly the same trouble. He was such a cute kid, but lately he wants everything he can't have, and goes off on one if he can't have it. Including getting his own way, sometimes I give in just for some peace.

Answer 8

You pop him on his *** when he acts up and send him to his room and let him wear his self out with his temper tantrums. I don't believe in all this psychologist mumbo jumbo bull sh!t told to us by doctors who when you check don't even have kids of their own. We use to act out as kids and my mother tore our a$$es up until we decided it wasn't in our best interest to act up anymore. All of a damn sudden it has become to easy to put our kids on drugs and say they have "anger management problems" or "behavioral problems".... what? all of a sudden in the year 2000 there was an epidemic of child behavioral problems that swept over the USA, I don't think so. It's just parents got to lazy and to scared to discipline there damn kids!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

marcelline
i f'done my job before you dear try to find the solution of it the problem i think the best think is to go down to thier level try to understand them don't forget that if we look back we see that we all had our mistakes when we where youbg we was a bit noughty i think the solition is go down the levil of 13 try to understand themboys love the mummy becouse it is the opposit sex

i think if you send them where they can socialize with children like sports they will be ok

Answer 10

i am 13 and if your son have a temper u need to talk to him if u cant get a girl to talk to him ,maybe your son need a girl in his live since he moody ,if he don't have a girlfriend.maybe he is going through a hard time in his love life.i would be glad to find out wat is going in his life for u if u want .