Perhaps I am picky, but I find that a person who cannot manage his finances, keep himself physically fit, not like pets, children or the elderly, disrespectful to me, is not educated, and is not independent both financially and emotionally, drinks excessively and smokes are dealbreakers for me. Perhaps I am more selective given the fact I own a house, am physically fit, financially independent and placed myself through graduate school that I want to meet and marry someone with my same qualities. What does everybody else think? Are my expectations too high?
2006-08-02 09:20:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, your expectations are not too high! Don't forget he has to take care of his teeth, too! I think it does narrow the field of candidates, but that will also save you time. Years ago I realized I kept choosing the same type guy and it always ended badly. I made a conscious decision to choose someone who would treat me the way I deserved and 5 weeks later I met him! If I hadn't had the resolve you now have, I would not have realized what a catch this guy was/is. Another thing to keep in mind is after you find someone both of you have to be dedicated to being someone someone would want to hang out with for 50 years. I think your criteria fits this goal perfectly. Good luck!
2006-08-02 09:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by angelicsanto 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-01 09:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by rafael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your expectations are normal and where they should be. What you describe is a lot of unhealthy dysfunction that can be very detrimental to your well being.
Your not picky, you just think with common sense of what you need and want out of life.
You have a right to want someone with the same values as you and you don't have to settle for less.
2006-08-02 09:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darn... would you take 9 out of the 11... I could possibly go as far as 10... but all 11..
gosh oh mighty girl... you a tough cookie :)
You hold to your standards... you seem like a hoot too... besides, for all those you post there are a hundred more that your man is going to pop on you that you never thought of.... so learn to have a bit of flexibility and forgiveness...
remember, were only male!
ummmm.. if your good... I mean real good (n-bed)... I could probably sqeeze in that 11th item... no guarentee but possibly..
2006-08-02 09:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your full of yourself, and you think your better than everyone else. That is why you will have a hard time finding true love. You might get married but true love is not about money, looks. Also sound like your lokking for the perfect man, and nobody is really perfect. How would you like it if you got along well with someone and fell in love, but he dumps you because he does not like the fact that you like oatmeal and he likes cereal.
2006-08-02 09:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your expectations are not too high. No one should feel their expectations are high, as this is "marriage" for possibly the rest of your life we are talking about. But when available gentlemen become few and far between, you may have to adjust your expectations just a little.. Take care and good luck...
2006-08-02 09:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really can't say they are too high but just make sure your expectations do not make you miss out on a great guy because he did not meet all your standards. Husbands come wrapped in the most unexpected paper.
2006-08-02 09:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be too picky, but I understand 'cause you want someone to be at the same level as you, it's only fair. It's good to be that determined about what you want and probably you attract guys who feel the same way.
2006-08-02 09:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can deal with most things but chronic smoking is a definite "see ya" for me. The same with lying... once a guy lies to me its over, because if he doesn't respect me now it certainly isn't going to increase as the relationship develops, and it can't develop without trust.
Every word you use to describe yourself applies to me as well, except for a lack of education as a deal breaker. If he is smart, but not educated I can work with that, and a guy who is a little chubby is OK for me.
2006-08-02 09:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you are 100% on the ball. You did alot with your life, and you want to find someone with the same qualities, and who has been through the same thing.
Good on you! You found what you want, now GO for it, and dont settle for anything less :)
Xx
2006-08-02 09:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋