I met my fiance through a friend of mine. However, I wouldn't say she is a super close friend (let's call her Kate). I then met another person through work and we are now very close friends (let's call her Jane). Kate has expressed feeling left out that I am such good friends with Jane. I want Jane in my wedding party and not Kate. What do I do? Is there something else I can do to make Kate not feel hurt? I need advice! Thanks!
2006-08-02 09:18:22 · 9 answers · asked by SBean_29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ask Kate to do something else for the wedding. She can do a reading at the ceremony or something like that. That way she feels included, but she's not in your wedding party. Remember, it's your wedding, be nice and polite to all, but in the end it's your decision who you choose to be your bridesmaids.
2006-08-02 09:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will be a delicate situation. I do very much believe that it is entirely the bride and groom's perogative to decide who will be in the wedding party. No one else really has a "right" to say anything about it. Often the couple has to deal with expecations of family, friends, and culture, which makes things tricky. In the end, however, you can't please everyone and there is the reality of logistics, size, and cost involved.
Is there a reason that Kate thinks she should be in the wedding party? Is she very close to your fiance? It is not unheard of for the groom to have a sister or female friend as a bridesmaid (or the bride to do the reverse). Maybe he could ask her and you could have a male friend in the wedding party.
But if this isn't the case, if neither of you are super close to Kate, you'll have to be honest with her about your decision. See if there is something you can ask her to do - be part of the ceremony (read, sing, whatever), create centerpieces (as her wedding gift to you two, of course), organize something or another... I'll be honest, she's probably going to feel hurt and it will probably not be a fun conversation at all.
2006-08-02 09:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is tricky. You really must honour Kate in some way, since she is (essentially) the reason you and your fiance will be standing up beside each other. This is definite "reading" territory. We did the same thing with a good friend of ours...we really didn't feel it necessary to have her in the wedding party, as she is much older (she is my second cousin) and lived overseas. We asked her to do a very special reading for both of us and she was thrilled. However, be prepared for "Kate" to NOT be thrilled.
However, any "friend" who pressures you into selecting them will only be trouble in the longterm...these are most commonly the flakes and the ditz's, sorry to say! And (obviously) the most clueless when it comes to social skills and etiquette.
Present another option than bridal party, but then brace for impact!! Good luck!
2006-08-02 09:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_kick_boxer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you met your fiance through Kate, include her in the wedding party. Have both girls. Think how you would feel if the situation were reversed. Wouldn't you feel terrible at being left out? And resentful? You owe Kate your husband! If you can't have her as an attendant, give her another honor position.
2006-08-02 11:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice as to who is in your wedding party. There are several other places Kate could help out such as wedding day coordinator, guest book, read a bible verse, candle lighter, cake cutter to name a few.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 09:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people will tell you its your wedding your final decisions...you will turn into a bridezilla. You want to continue being friends I would put her in the line, unless there is some god awful reason you dont want to. or instead make a toast to her at the wedding for hooking you both up. after that she'll get over not being in your lineup.
2006-08-02 09:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by rafael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see which one is more interesting in coming to your wedding.Then invite the one you think that really want to come.
2006-08-02 09:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whom was your friend first .....I say this because my friend chose 2 newer friends to be her maids of honor I was a bridesmaid though but it didn't bother me until I saw how they tried to sabotage her Wedding...she's not talking to them till this day...
2006-08-02 09:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋