I have found my two girls, 7 and 5. I have found them in "forts", dog houses, play rooms and such with bedding off my bed. When caught, they act strangly. Subsquint inspections of my girls "neather regions" has shown discharge, redness and swelling. Their behavior is not right either. They almost act as though they are scared of the boy in question, but do not want to be alone with him. Conversation with the girls reveals nothing exept that they either get quiet or change the topic. Am I crazy? What should I do?
2006-08-02 08:48:03 · 30 answers · asked by Don F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you are not crazy. You have got to get them away from that kid. ask them what happened and make sure they know that you ARE NOT MAD at them. that it ISN'T THEIR FAULT. If they refuse to talk to you about it, let them be, but always make it known that they can talk to you about it. They should open up eventually and you can decide what course of action (therapy etc) to take. and you should talk to this boy's parents, it won't be fun but he could be doing this to other kids. talk to the police if need be but get this freak away from your girls!
2006-08-02 08:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kansas 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
First, stop allowing contact with the other child, immediately.
Next, get them to a medical doctor to confirm or deny your suspicions.
If you are correct in your suspicions find them a qualified child therapist who can get them to talk and to deal with this, they are going to need it.
Somewhere along the lines, child services will be contacted, probably by the doctor. Be prepared for an investigation. But do not allow that to deter you from getting your kids help.
Also, at such a young age, this boy is most likely displaying behavior he has learned. Somewhere along the lines he has probably or is being molested. So the intervention of family services will help him as well.
also, do not question your children farther. I mean it, DONT. Let it up to the pros. Many times kids will tell us what they think we want them to say and testimonies can get thrown out if they feel the kids were pushed.
2006-08-02 10:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 5 and 7 they are old enough to tell you if something is going on. I have a 5 and 6 year old (both girls) and we always talk about only mommy and the doctor touch your privates. We also communicate about it a lot, and i ask a lot of open ended questions. You should just ask them, and let them know that they would not be in trouble and can tell you anything. If they are I wouodl contact the kids mom right away.
2006-08-02 08:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your children to the emergency room as soon as possible, and have them examined. The doctor will be able to tell you if there has been any tearing. You should also keep your daughters away from the possible perpetrators as this point. You should also question your daughters. Tell them that they're not in trouble, and you're not angry. Tell them that whatever they say will stay between the three of you (although you should probably question them separately). Ask them if anyone has done anything to make them feel uncomfortable both emotionally and physically. If you're not comfortable asking the questions, then have a doctor do it.
2006-08-02 09:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Prissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behavior changing is a sign. If the girls were excited 2 see their friend and wanted 2 play with him, but suddenly change then that is a problem. Maybe the little boy is saying or touching your girls in a sexual way, so that's why there is nothing wrong with their vaginal area. Maybe a psychologist or shrink can get the truth out of them or determine what is wrong with the girls.
2006-08-02 09:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protect those babies at any cost! How much do you trust your girls' pediatrician? And how much do your girls trust their ped? I'd start there. Arrange a conference ASAP. Have them checked, and depending on the outcome, look into some counseling for them and you. But make sure that the children understand that they are not the ones at fault. They did nothing wrong.
Absolutely avoid the boy. If he is exhibiting predatory behavior at this age, he needs help as well. If it turns out your girls have been abused at his hands, you will need to let law enforcement know as well, so he CAN get help.
My heart goes out to you, Mama! Do what you need to do to protect your children. If you need a friendly ear, give me a shout. I've been through the cycle of abuse at the hands of a family member.
2006-08-02 09:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Roxanne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to the bottom of this right away sit them down and gently talk to them about they might not understand what you are asking them especially your 5 year old explain to them that any form of touching there is wrong and if you still don't get anywhere maybe try and remove your children from playing with the playmate you believe is doing this I hope that re not be sexually abused for yours and their sake but if they are get them counseling also tell the playmates parents that child may need help and until he or she gets the help then you are not comfortable with our child around them Good Luck and God Bless
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2016-11-27 21:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I really don't know what to tell you except keep them away from the boy. I would try asking them again. I would also take them to the doctor, because even if nothing is going on they should not have discharge at that age. They may have an infection. Good Luck.
2006-08-02 08:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true heart to heart is needed. Make sure that they know that they are not going to be in trouble. If you're kids are being assulted then you need to be the adult here and make it stop. Even if it takes placing video camara's around to get the proof. They seem scared and there is a reason for that. Protect your children and make sure that they are loved and secure in their environment. This abuse could scare them for life. Get help immediately!
2006-08-02 09:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to take the girls to their doctors so that the doctor can document what has happened. Or, call the police and ask what to do next. Do they play with dolls differently? For example do they pose the dolls in sexual positions?? Get them help if you suspect abuse. Don't delay
2006-08-02 08:56:57 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋