I'm looking for support as my fiance deploys to Iraq?

Question

I was just informed this morning that my fiance will be deploying to Iraq on Sunday, Aug 6th. He's stationed at Schofield in hawaii, and I'm in PA. The last we saw each other was June, and his tour is 13 months. I just wanted to know if anyone out there could help me....wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands....who have gone through this. Right now I'm just numb and really don't know what to think. We knew this was coming, but now that it's here, it's so much harder to accept. I just need some sort of advice as to what I could do to help ease this pain I'm feeling.

Answer 1

http://www.militarycity.com/discussions/showthread.php?p=15510&mode=threaded

http://www.armywivesforums.com/forums/

A couple of support groups for wives/girlfriends/fiances/boyfriends etc....they work

http://usarmylove.tripod.com/
Another link with many more sites

Answer 2

There is alot of things you can do, they do have family readyness programs which will help you prepare for him leaving. And when he is gone, a lot of wives and girlfriends do get together and help each other out, sending packages with food and pictures (pictures are great) phone cards little things from home. Also spend as much good time with him before he leaves don't let him leave on a bad note (after an argument) Overseas deployment now is better than it was, there are more phones and computers available so that you both can keep in contact, get a cell phone so he can talk to you when ever he gets a chance, it is terrible for you and him if he calls the house phone and your not their. Trust is another big issue dont do anything that may make him start to think you are out with other people. He needs your support and love, give as much of it as you can until he comes back.

Answer 3

I remember when my hubby went overseas... And then shortly after that, so did his brother! (both Marines) We all got a group thing going, we went on shopping sprees together, sent boxes out together, we sent them everything, we even sent a little Christmas tree at Christmas time! They said, getting a box was like Christmas time!! we cried together & we prayed together! There was allot of phone conversations, instant messages, pictures... Looking back, it went by pretty fast!

Right now, you are looking at a mountain of 13 months, and that is the root of your pain, but, Im telling you, before you know it, you will have 6 behind you, and then it will just diminish to nothing until the day when you can be together again. Be true to him, because he's gonna have insecure feelings going on, esp. since you're not married yet, true Love is a cool thing, it carries us through everything, and still end up on top!

You will be OK..... drop me a line if you care too.. take care..

Answer 4

My husband had to go to Iraq, he was activated in August of 2004, left country on Jan. 12, 2005 and returned home Dec. 29, 2005. It was the hardest year of my life. I'm already a strong person, and even thinking back on that time brings tears to my eyes because it was so hard, but I made it through and so did he. I found alot of support with other wives/girlfriends and became involved with the local family support group. I kept a journal that I wrote in when I had crazy feelings that "normal" people would not have understood and that I kept inside me and to myself. It's a hard thing to go through, and everyone has to deal with it in their own way. If you want to talk to me about anything, feel free to contact me. Just contact me through here first (click on my pic/name) and then I'll give you my email address.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I'm going to email you with my email address. I know how hard this is for you, but you're doing the right thing by reaching out to other military wives and girlfriends. My husband is the Military, and this is not always an easy life!
Also, check out Militarywives.com and Armywives.Com
You hang in there!
I came back to edit my answer because I tried to email you, but there was a problem with you address, so just email me.

Answer 7

i totally know the feeling. it is so tough being a military wife sometimes. i think the best thing to do is let out your pain. cry your heart out if you need to, sometimes it makes you feel better. keep yourself as busy as possible to keep your mind off of things. and surround yourself with family and friends, they will be your support and help you through this. it will be a tough time, but you will make it, and always remember, what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. you can email me if you ever need any advise or just to vent. : )

Answer 8

A SOLDIERS WIFE is right. Contact one of many support groups that are made up of other military spouses - they are the only people that can know how you feel.
When I was serving overseas I always thought that us Marines had it easy compared to our wife's who had to stay back and take care of every little detail and raise our kids and worry every single day. My salute is to you, and every one like you who do what you do to love us and support us so that we can go do what we do best ! Your support, faith, love and devotion will never be forgotten. HANG IN THERE !!!!!
Semper Fi.

Answer 9

Our military has many supportive Americans behind them. Don't believe the media and their anti-American agenda. I can't offer any advice other than that.

Answer 10

Been in your situation 5 times. If you need a friend email me at [e-mail]