Ok I'm casually seeing this guy. We've been on 3 dates and we've fooled around a bit but not gone all the way(probably would have but stopped on the count of not having protection). I asked him if he wanted to do something the other day (3 days after i last saw him) and he said that he would probably be tired after work (which i understood) so I said well give me a call if you want to hang out. It's been 2 days and I haven't heard anything. How long should I wait b4 I casually call just to say "hey" or should I not even bother? I really like this guy and dont want to come off desperate but don't want to not do anything and end it unknowingly.
HELP!
2006-08-02 08:27:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pandora: Someone needs to explain the whole "What = a ****" to me because if you have sex on the first date= ur a s lut
2nd date=s lut
6th date=s lut
Honestly, if I like a guy and he likes me, we both can't keep our hands off each other, we are two consending adults. Why the hell shouldn't we portray what we are feeling physically. Same goes with waiting... if we both want to wait to be intimate then we should be allowed and not be annalysed to death over our desicions. The question was not about whether we are fooling around too soon but merely should I make the next move?
2006-08-02 08:56:35 · update #1
The last thing you should do is to call him this soon. There are two big problems with that, if he just wanted to sleep with you you will fall in his trap and he will know you let off easy, if he is a good guy but has a lot of work, the you might sound t desperate, and will be a major turn off. Use your spare time, ask about him from a friend, then after 2-4 days call him, tell him something like you're bored and have some spare time and invite him to have dinner with you. Good Luck.
2006-08-02 08:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?!!? Okay, you definitely DO NOT wanna call him up and tell him you miss him! What the hell?!!? That's not what a guy wants to hear from a woman he's seeing casually and hasn't even slept with. That just SCREAMS stalker/clingy/emotionally unstable. Give it a couple more days, he'll probably call. If not, give him a ring and invite him to do something really casual/low profile. "Hey, I'm going out to [insert name of bar/cafe here] to have a drink and do some people-watching. You should come with." Done.
2006-08-02 15:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Troy Powers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably an adherant to the "3rd date" rule. You shut him down because of no protection and now you have passed the time limit to put out. Move on, this guy is a waste of time.
2006-08-02 15:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you feel like you have to put out to keep his attention.
Sound like he was just testing you to see how easy you were. You may have come off as easy to him, and now he's wondering how easy you would be for other guys.....
If you put out to make people like you, they don't feel too special. They feel like they could be anybody, and you would still put out.
Guys want to feel like they have won you over with their charm, wittiness, humor, and whatever else they want to be. They don't want to be "just some joe" to you.
And I am sure that you are charming, intelligent, articulate, engaging, and fun to be with. You shouldn't have to put out so soon to get a guy's attention, or to keep one interested.
Don't call him back. Make him wonder. See other guys, but not exclusively. Don't get physical for at least a couple of months of dating. If guys want to get physical, tell that you don't know them well enough.
WHy do you really like this particular guy if you have to wonder how he feels? Maybe you just want him to like you.
If he really liked you, you wouldn't have to wonder about it. You would feel confident that he did. Lose him, find another.
2006-08-02 15:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call him now as it would just be a casual call..Take the initiative, maybe he's been looking for another job.. Take care and good luck......
2006-08-02 15:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think u should call him as some one has to break the ice and if u like him than give this relationship sometime and see where this all is heading
2006-08-02 15:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by aks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not be a good idea to come off so easy, it could make a guy lose interest.
2006-08-02 15:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him on the fourth day if he doesnt call u by then, just tell him that u missed him and was wondering what he was doing, u wont sound desperate just interested in him
2006-08-02 15:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up and tell him how you feel about him and see if he is the same with you.
2006-08-02 15:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by EMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him, if he is the right one there should be no problem with the call. just start talking about anything
2006-08-02 15:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by coacht 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋