i recently broke up with my b/f of 5yrs. he cheated on me. i asked about the girl and he said" we call each other. assume we still talk everyday." i told him not to call me unless he stop talking with the other girl. he doesn't contact me at all since then.
I assume he is going out with the girl. but it's just sooo hard to get over. i try to keep myself busy, but if i have 10minutes, i still think about him. have you ever had experience like this? how did you get over? i still love him. but he doesn't wanna talk to me. i gotta move on.
i really don't know what to do.. how can i move on??
2006-08-02 08:22:59 · 15 answers · asked by makerunanrk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
happened to me years ago.... and here's what i did....
1 cry till your tears run dry.... cry for a week... for months....
2 pray, pray and pray. asked God to help you recover, tell Him all how you feel.... (i know God knows what happens here on earth but it is a good feeling to pour out your hearts on Him)
3 accept the fact that even if you want him back you really cant give him your 100% trust anymore.
4 tell yourself over and over that that guy is not worth of your love and time and tears...... yes he's nice, yes he's goodlooking... but he's not worth it cause (your reason)
5 whenever the memories of him enters your mind tell yourself that you have to forget him. you have to be ready coz anytime God will eventually allow you meet the right guy. get excited by the idea of meeting someone more handsome and nice than your ex bf.
6. visualize his looks, etc etc etc....
7...meet new friends through friends, families..... but be careful you dont want to fall inlove with the wrong guy....
8 try to enjoy being single for awhile...
9 (right guys come when you least expect it) ;)
2006-08-02 09:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by garre 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The key word in your situation is "recently." It is always going to hurt. I know that when people tell you that "it will be ok" or "plenty of fish in the sea" or "time heals all wounds" that it doesn't seem like those fit. But in reality, they do fit. I have been in your situation. My g/f tore my heart right out of my chest. I thought I would die. I took each day at a time, and eventually (not for a while though) the pain hurts just a little less. Then after a while it hurts a little less. And so on and on until you are able to move on. Good luck!!
2006-08-02 15:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u recieved a hard shock...me 2...i tried all this
look its normal 2 remember him(remember the good side of him and remember the moment u were 2gether)
but honey....after rememberin ur sweet memories dont ever 4get his bad side...he cheated u
look that happened 2 me once and every song reminded me of him...i thought about him over an hour but after that i tell myself " wait a minute girl he cheated u...u cant just set there and remember him while hes 4gettin u...ur better than that...u have selfrespect...u can find a better guy cause u deserve it"
and lookin 4 a new guy isnt bad at all...who knows???
maybe hes better than ur ex...maybe u will be happy with him more than ur ex
dont worry u will have good and lovely moment with ur new one and u will remember that
just now u have 2 take a deep breath and say...lets start over again...it wont hurts...it will make u feel better
and every time u think about him...just call ur friends ur best friends...talk 2 them...talkin is very important at this point
cause u need 2 say what u exactly feel...it will make u feel better
2006-08-02 15:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by yasmeen q* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well realy dont no how to help you on this one cuzi have only had 2 boyfriends and the first one cheated on me that wqas easy to get over and the second one i haev been in scence the 6th grade and i am going in to the 8th so i haven't been in a 5 year relation ship yet but only thing to do is to try to move on and find onther guy but i bet it is hard scence you guys have been going for 5 years and i am sorry about the loss
2006-08-02 15:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart will stay tender unless you get off of your sobbing butt and go out on a mission. Open up and give another deserving guy a chance dear...His life has gone on and you are still loafing around being weak. Remember this: ONLY A FOOL BREAKS HIS/HER OWN HEART!
You got the tools, now apply them. Good Luck!
2006-08-02 15:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just pick up and do it. Quit dwelling on the past and set your sights for the future. Set yourslef obtainable goals, like doing better in school, making new friends, learning a new skill. Join a club or take up a new sport.
2006-08-02 15:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive experianced it it turned out at the end that he wasnt cheating on me. he was talking to her because he wanted her to find out what the perfect gift was for my b-day. but mayb 4 u its different,mayb he has hes own issue, talk 2 him. and with me he still doesnt talk 2 me hardly any. it sucks i still think about him. ive got over him alittle the thing that i got over him by meeting new guys and going out with them it helped alittle i acculy found a guy i never that i would go out with, and hes like the perfect guy. like the saying goes theres other fish in the sea!
2006-08-02 15:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by band weinie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a corn leave him alone if he wants the other girl let him have her there is someone out there for you you just have to wait in line at the meat market for your number to be called
2006-08-02 15:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by kandigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter to him. You don't have to mail it if you don't want to, but it is better if you do. The important thing is to express how you feel about him and what he has done. Then, let go and move on.
2006-08-02 15:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about his faults. You know he cheated on you, and that means he is unfaithful. Also, if he wanted to cheat on you so badly, then he was NOT a good bf.
2006-08-02 15:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by aquamarinegirl11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋