whats wrong with me?

Question

ive liked this guy
i just told him that i like him and now i want to avoid him
whenever he would ask i felt uncomftorble
whats wrong with me

Answer 1

This is so normal to not want to be in the same room, after admitting "feelings" for someone. Everyone including the other person go through this awkward stage of "getting to know you"

Don't give up! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!

My opinion is that dating is meant to be a fun experience in order to get to know people. Keep in mind that in not dating some of the guys that ask you out, or you ask out, (or avoiding them) you could be missing out on a great opportunity that might evolve into a great friendship, even if the romance doesn't last. My best friend and I were at one point very sweet on each other, but we realized that it wouldn't work out. However, we have been best friends ever since.

Don't be so negative about it, but don't get too worked up over it either.......until you find someone who you really click with.
Try not to be so hard on yourself. Those first couple trys can be daunting. If he does not return your feelings, it will be OK. just keep trying. There is someone out there for you!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

You are protecting your "real" self.

By asking him the question like you did you have taken a risk.

You have risked the chance that he may not like you, that he initially likes you and then when he learns more decides he doesn't like you, etc.

All the above would damage your confidence and self-perception. By avoiding him or not engaging him you are presenting your "Shadow" self - the persona we use to protect our real selves.

By avoiding or not engaging him you do not risk being hurt in any way -this is a very safe and understandable reaction.

However, playing it safe all the time means we don't take risk and as a result do not ever grow as people.

Your reaction is natural - to combat it you must acknowledge your fear and realise that any bad reaction/ result should you continue to show interest is not a reflection on you- and that your value as a person is not dependent on the result or his reactions.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You are feeling vulnerable because you revealed your feelings to him.

If he likes you, he may feel nervous about revealing his feelings to you, but eventually share them. If not, he may try to exploit your feelings and string you along.

Ask yourself, do you really like him, or do you just want him to like you? If you really like him, don't let yourself become too "emotionally invested" before he shares how he feels.

You may have to wait a bit to find out how he feels. By taking the iniative and being the first to share, you have already sort of stolen his thunder, and he may need time to recover from it.

Don't avoid him, but don't follow him around, either. Don't do it again by asking him out. Just tell him you'll be somewhere (like a coffee shop or Borders) at a certain time and day. If he shows up, you'll know you have his attention, and spare him from having to ask you out (he might be too scared to).

Nothing is wrong with you. All people fear rejection. That's why we feel so vulberable when we expose out emotions to someone who may reject us. It takes courage to do that, though.

Sometimes guys are intimidated by that, so tread lightly. Remember, just because you like someone, doesn't mean they owe you anything, so don't have expectations.

Good luck and take care!

Answer 4

Its just that now its out there you're feeling a little vulnerable. Didn't he tell you he felt the same way, is that what has you a little shook up? Relax and don't expect anything too soon. Enjoy time spent with him and get to know him better.

Answer 5

I think that your nervous, but if your feeling unconfortable, then maybe the spark that you may have imagined there isnt actuallly real. If you feel unconfortable, try to ask yourself, what is it about this guy that I like, (besides that he is cute). You also need to ask yourself to honestly anzlize what you dont like in him. In the end after all your deep thoughts, you still feel unconfortable, then just go with your gut, and stay away. Trust your instinct, it will stay true to you. THere is nothing wrong with you. Remember, you have to love yourself, before you can learn to love anybody else. Good Luck!

Answer 6

That is just natural. It is your nerves. It's a good thing that u told him cuz now ya'll can make a connection and a good one. Start to be friends and then more than friend. Fight your fear and talk to him. That's the only way ya'll can be in a relationship. Talk to him and tell him how u feel. I wish u tha best and I hope my advice will work.

Answer 7

Ur totaly in love with him. Ur avoiding him because u felt uncomfortable maybe because u told him that u like him and not him telling u that he likes u. But don't worry, u'll be comfortable with him someday. It takes time.

Answer 8

This is a breakthrough for you and mankind. Finally a woman admits to her salacious ways. Women tease the hell out of men and then they tell us to go fly a kite. What's up with that? Why don't they just jump on the bull and ride'em out?

Answer 9

it's normal.. you're just nervous and afraid of what might happen. Let loose a little bit... try to ignore those feelings that are telling you to avoid him!! If he likes you then he'll understand! Good luck!

Answer 10

You did not like his reaction when you told him. Plain and simple and as for what is wrong with you, you will grow up in time to know what you want. IN short there is nothing wrong with you, you are just growing up.