My dad moved in with me 9 years ago when he started having problems with his eyes. It was supposed to be temporary but when ever we moved he packed up and came with. He was able to work for several years but never paid us any rent or helped out with bills or groceries. Now he has very poor eyesight and cannot work, gets very little for disability. hes a young man. only 59. I cant ask him to leave because he is my dad and doesnt have any money but he cant stay with me for ever. he cost money and is taking up space in my house that I could really use. What do you suggest?
2006-08-02 07:57:54 · 11 answers · asked by sea_sher 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am getting alot of heat from this question. I want to add that NO, he was not here for me as a child, i didnt know him until i was 18 and he never paid my mom child support. He spends every evening at the bar spending the money that he does have AND he has had other offers to move in other places and turned them down!!!
2006-08-02 08:09:13 · update #1
Also, i have no job so its tough right now to feed an extra mouth and my daughter is practically living in a closet so my dad has space. He is taking up my whole garage with his stuff and i cant even park my car in there!!
2006-08-02 08:11:59 · update #2
If my dad had left me when I was a baby, he wouldn't have moved in with me in the first place. I know that sounds harsh, but being a biological father does not make you a "dad".
2006-08-02 08:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by candy7 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
See if there are any available nursing homes around, it's just a shame you feel this way, especially if he had to put a roof over your head when you were a child I'am sure. I'am sure no matter what as your father he struggled to provide for you and didnt consider you as "Taking up space" as your father I feel you owe it to him, if he copuld afford to work, would be another scenerio, but your father has a disability, and the only person he could rely on for his care is you, so dont be selfish. pray, "God makes a way out of no-way" you'd be surprised.
2006-08-02 15:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is causing trouble with your own family he needs to go. That being said, you said he has no money, can't work, is there anyone else that he can stay with? If not, do you want him on the streets? Maybe he can go see a welfare worker to see if they can help him. He is an adult. BTW, that is your fault for not putting your foot down years ago and charging him rent.
2006-08-02 15:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try contacting a social services office. My aunt is legally blind now and can't work. She's been living in an apartment complex with state or federal aid to subsidize the housing. I'd start with an agency that deals with the 'blind'.
2006-08-02 15:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can ask him to leave. Even a blind person can work. He is taking total advantage of you. Tell him he has 30 days to find another place. Put it in writing and have it notarized. Change the locks if he won't go. You are enabling him to leech off of you. He needs to get a life of his own.
2006-08-02 15:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him a old folks home! i no that seems a little mean but he will have to go into one sooner or latta! he needs to b some where that some one can take care of him 24/7 and youi have a life it is not ike you can sit at home all day and take care of him! pus you can still go buy and visit him all the time!
2006-08-02 15:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by bballgurlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on, it's your dad!!! are you more worried about your money than his health? do you think he would have kicked out of his house if u were in the same situation he is in right now?
just be there for him and give him a break a little. what are people thinkin these days?
2006-08-02 15:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Izzo_3x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult situation. This might sound cruel but consider taking him to a nursery home. He will be fine and you will be better and of course with the peace of mind that you haven't abandoned him
2006-08-02 15:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with IZZO. They clothed and fed you; provided for you most of your young adult life and this is how you repay them??? Where's the humanity??? What happened to 'honor, obey, respect, take care of thy parents'? OOOHHH!!! That's right!!!! I forgot we live in a worldly and selfish materialistic~paganistic place that seems to take presidence over EVERYTHING ELSE~unfortunately and especially over GOD!!!!!!! I'm sorry if you were looking for support to get rid of him!!!
2006-08-02 15:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by PREY4WIZDUM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him and try to help him come up with another solution-perhaps the county can provide housing for him!!!
2006-08-02 15:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋