how do i tell my brother to stop annoying me w/o getting mad? im tired of it and my grandma is coming this friday by herself since my grandpa passed away 5 days before my b-day. i don't want to make her upset while she is here because of my 14 yearold brother. so how do i get him to stop.
he also has A.D.H.D but he knows how to control it.
2006-08-02 07:49:51 · 12 answers · asked by Victoria J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
While I realize that you probably don't have any children yourself, this can be a valuable lesson if you do plan to have kids. He's 14 - that's what 14 year olds do.
The more he sees it gets to you, the more he's going to do it. You have to exercise self-control and ignore the behavior. Validating the behavior with ANY type of negative reaction will still encourage it. If you are unable to ignore it, get up and leave the room. When he stops getting a reaction, he will stop the behavior.
2006-08-02 07:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
You can not control other peoples behavior. Especially a 14 year old ADHD kid. Your better off sending him to a friends house for the duration of your grandma's visit.
2006-08-02 14:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him.. eventually he'll calm down. when he's quiet, try to engage him in conversation, or do some activities (make something for your grandma, like a card)..... watch a movie w/ him. but i he acts up and upsets u, just walk away, he's old enough to watch by himself. but he may feel bad that he's pushing u away when he probably wants to spend time w/ you.
2006-08-02 14:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind, it's hard to control ADD. it's also very over-diagnosed, so who knows?
unfortunately, you can only change yourself. i would suggest just being very very patient. you'll have to close yourself off from the world, and be very still inside. you have to harmonize your internal chemistry, and just balance. then nothing can annoy you.
2006-08-02 14:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by entropicflux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him with respect and expect the same from him. Don't over react to him. Be calm and mature.
2006-08-02 14:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and explain your feelings and how important it is about your grandma comin and how u want to make her happy instead of sad
2006-08-02 14:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probable loves your Grandmother too so help him understand that being nice to you is showing love to his grandmother.
2006-08-02 14:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Track Walker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with him alot wear him out,annoy him back see if it works
2006-08-02 14:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him...
if that doesnt work punch him in the face
2006-08-02 14:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak with him seriously. or when he does something to you just don't say anything, that's what I do.
2006-08-02 14:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋