i've thinkin lately what the hell is wrong with me or what am i lacking when it comes to personality.i don't try so hard to attract a blokes attention but it seems like,im too boring for them.i dunno! people say especially my family and friends that i've got good personality.i got the brain and beauty that every girl envies and the voice to draw every man near me.but it seems like,no one is taking their chance on me..i got to meet and know this bloke once.thought we're going to bring our friendship to the next level but then i found out,she loves someone.i tried to put back my self-esteem and confidence after that.i gone to date again but i can't draw any man to like ans stick with me but not as friends..more than that..i got no bad record when it comes to guys.i can say im a decent woman and well-brought too..but how come i got no luck?
2006-08-02 07:44:45 · 21 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not desperate,actually..it's just that i've noticed it.im not just a girl who is brainiac.i know how to enjoy and carry myself.im a sporty type of gal.i love playing sports..guess my only lack is sexual experience.even though i had 2 ex bf, we or should i say me have never been too physical with them.the most intimate thing we've done is kissed,cuddle and the likes..could this lack of sexual experience be a hindrance? why?
2006-08-02 08:19:16 · update #1
i am confident to say that i am not vain..people say,i've got talent..but im aware that this won't get me close into finding a guy..im not desperate,clingy or what type of girl...
2006-08-02 08:23:46 · update #2
I don't think a man has the slightest idea of how much of a blessing it is to be loved by a woman.They take no consideration of females these days and you I hope will get lucky for the simple fact that LOVE conquers all and you have no need to force something that will eventually rise, it takes time and mainly we have as much time as we are suppose to and that is it ,so love yourself and soon enough the time will come and you are going to be happy in love. so just sit back and enjoy all that you are, you have a beautiful life ahead of you just right now may not be as pleasant as you would like 4 it to be but rest assure you will have a person to love you unconditionally. TIME IS ON OUR SIDE,KRISSY
2006-08-02 08:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by krisforre 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not luck. Its YOU. "Good personality" "The Brain" and "Beauty" is all opinion. And for you to even think that your voice could ever hold a man's attention for more than two seconds is complete vanity. Its about so much more than that. Its the complete package. And compatibility. Maybe you're attracted to the wrong type of guys. Maybe you don't give many guys a chance because you're so damn vain. Whatever the reason look inside yourself. Its not them. Its you. And you can only change yourself. So sure they can see your worth. They can see exactly what you put out there and they've decided they don't like it. Maybe you shouldn't try so hard to find someone and enjoy life- thats the ultimate way to find someone.
2006-08-02 14:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start with your grammar. Anyway, there's always someone out there for you. Don't be upset because you are not with someone right now. You're still young, so have some fun! Clearly, something is up because what you've just said (good personality, brain, beauty) can attract a lot of guys. Maybe it's how you handle yourself. Do you come off as being aggressive to guys? If not, then just continue being yourself and don't think too much of being in a relationship. Your prince charming will find his way to you!
2006-08-02 14:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by kray_z_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bit like playing the lottery every week, glued to the teli every saturday watching and hoping, and nothing... the week you don't chase the win and are not glued to the teli, you discover a few days later that you won something. In short, when the time is right and its your turn, it will happen. You obviously have low self esteem, it will change as you mature, like a good wine. There is nothing wrong with you, believe that, think of yourself as the most precious and unique person that is waiting to be discovered by an equally special person. Like Cinderella... good luck
2006-08-02 15:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't met the right guy yet. Everyone has a type of person their attracted to. It will take time. There are a lot of fish in the sea. That doesn't mean you should go fishing, though. Put yourself out there, but don't make it seem like you're desperate, like you sound in your question. Be yourself and the right guy will come to you. If it takes years upon years, it will happen if you have faith and confidence in yourself. Hope this helps. Luv.
2006-08-02 14:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Elaina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to stop thinking of guys as an amorphous mass! They are individuals, all different and they have got feelings too. Try and find some hobbies where you can meet someone with a like mind, or ask your friends if they know anyone who might suit you. Go with your intuition and most importantly, enjoy life. Often love will find you when you least expect it.
2006-08-02 15:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by F E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're young--teenaged or early 20s--I'd recommend you'd forget about men and concentrate on growing your own character, skills, and personality. Perhaps you are too young to know what kind of man is good for you, or you're attracted to the wrong kind.
If you're over 25, or over 30, I'd recommend talking to a counselor, a good female friend, or a sister--or maybe a good male friend!--and see how you might make yourself more attractive without compromising who you really are. I figure by this age, you've created the gift inside, and now you have to learn how to wrap it!
2006-08-02 14:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy an Alicia Keys CD and stop looking your looking to hard and your probrably overlooking someone. Try to enjoy yourself and have fun when you do he will just appear. Trust me when you quit looking it's like you find exactly what you need. And quit whining you seem to be an okay person but your feeling sorry for yourself. That is a major turn off to all men, men do not like whiners because it shows them what they would be stuck with if they married you and you didn't get your way. You need to find your own way and when you do you'll be okay.
2006-08-02 15:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Katrina Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some males are picky about what qualities they want in the woment they date, It is not you necessarily, just may not be the guys type, don't worry though because there is a guy out there that is looking for you but is still trying to find you and we he does there will be no doubts about your personality,looks,presence, or even beauty. So don't blame yourself because you can't that special someone, he will find you or you will find him at the moment when you least expect it.
2006-08-02 14:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the most intelligent and beautiful women are left alone for some time. Because guys feel intimidated or are afraid of your rejection. Consider yourself lucky to be one of a kind. Create a list of your expectations you want in a guy and you will then realize that most of the guys are a buch of losers. :)
2006-08-02 14:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋