I'm about 2 months pregnant and I've trying to figure the best way to tell my 6 year old son that I'm expecting. He already has a baby brother coming in October from his father...we haven't been together in years so no issues and my son seems to be taking it well, but my concern is my son is in the home with me full-time. What do you recommend the best way to tell him...I don't plan to tell him until second trimester.
2006-08-02 07:18:01 · 13 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just went through this and my wife and I both agree the best thing is to just tell him, don't sugar coat it or anything just be honest. Kids are alot more resilient than most people give them credit for. As far as when to tell him, I would do it as soon as possible, we told ours right after the doctor confirmed we were pregnant. But also realize a kids concept of time is different than yours.
2006-08-02 07:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by jbradc69 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I would nose around and ask questions like what would you think if you had a new brother or sister, for us to play with? would you rather have a brother or sister? When I had my daughter my sons knew right away, I did everything I could to make them a big part of the whole thing. You have to treat the situation as the whole family is having a baby, because they are, and everyone should be able to help, and make decisions. The more he feels apart of the whole thing, the better he will except the baby.
2006-08-02 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Robin i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start out by asking him what he would think of having a little brother or sister. Then, talk about how great it will be for him (almost like a present.) Talk about all the positive things there is to being a big brother, and having a sibiling. Make him a part of the event. This is something that he should be excited about.
2006-08-02 14:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tom S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus tell him mommy is having a baby and he gets to be the important big brother. I think everything will work out fine. Comgrats on the baby!
2006-08-02 14:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait until the second trimester? You need to be truthful with your children. Just tell him now..whats the big deal? Who cares if he doesn't take the news well, it's too late now! He'll get over it, or maybe he'll love the idea!
2006-08-02 14:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he's gunna be a big brother. Don't ask him if he wants to be, cause then he can say no. And make sure you sound very excited and happy when you do it. Do not sound sad in any way.
2006-08-02 14:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask for his help in taking care of you and the new baby. Make him part of the experience rather than an outsider.
2006-08-02 14:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not stupid, just tell him he's going to have a baby brother or sister. What's the big deal? Your Daddy is giving you a baby bro or sis and so am I! That should do it!!
2006-08-02 14:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to the book store and buy a book or two on welcoming a new baby... a child's version. barnes & nobel will be your best bet, they are VERY helpful.
your son is not going to be upset about having a sibling full-time! this will be his new play-mate eventually!
CONGRATS and best of luck!
2006-08-02 14:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so good to be sincere and honest. please look for the best occasion when he is happy, sit him down, use his hand to torch your Tommy and tell him that you are expecting his brother. Give assurance that is needed. so that he can start preparing for the new baby mummy talk about.
2006-08-02 15:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋