my ex-girlfriend?

Question

my ex-girlfriend and i have been broke up for about a month now.
some days she acts like she likes me and some days she acts like she hates me.
i have asked her if she has been talking or has done something w/some one eles and she always says no and gets mad .
she asked me the same quest. and i dont get mad
we were together for 4yrs. and she's acting like she does not care that we are not together anymore.. what should i do ? she's 31 and im 27. i would really like her back. i hate knowing some other guy will be w/her.

Answer 1

Talk to her and also have you acknowledged why you two broke up in the first place...

Answer 2

4 years is still quite a bit for a relationship outside of high school. Thats hard to tell some of these high schoolers. Its hard to take but wanting her back because you can't bare someone else being with her isn't a good thing. What you need to do is look at why you two even broke up. Ask yourself if there is anything valid to it. She may only be asking you if your with someone else because you ask her, but chances are if its out of subject any other time, than she is curious. If thats the case there is a good chance she is going through the same thing you are. The only problem with that would be that neither of you really understand why you're not together. What you need to do is understand why you split, and determine at this point if they are reconileable differences. Think about all the real reasons why you should be together, and compare them to why your not together.

Answer 3

Dude, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but she is not steak. You can't order her. Back off. What she does in her free time with other people, male or female, is none of your business now. And if you keep asking, she won't be acting anymore -- she WILL hate you. If you want to get back together with her, you need to figure out why the two of you broke up in the first place before you do anything else. Could it be that you were together for 4 years and you never asked her to marry you?

Answer 4

It sucks that after being together for so long you broke up. Four years is a long time, but you broke up for a reason right? The only way you can truly figure out whats going on is by talking to her. Ask her why she acts the way she does. Its hard maintaining a friendship after a break up and it does take a lot of effort, but right now you have to figure out whether what you have is a friendship? whether she still has feelings for you and is whether to give in, or whether its time to move on...If she can't be honest about her feelings, then sadly you'll have to move on. Theres no point in being confused and doing nothing about it.

Answer 5

Hey man, I'm going through this same thing with my ex-girlfriend right now. I think the best thing to do is keep in contact, but don't try too hard. Call her, leave a message, and then if she calls back talk to her. if she doesnt, i would think she is just too nervous to call. also, when you talk to her, let her know you are still there for her and you still care about her very much. ask her out to a casual dinner so you can catch up on things. you cant let her get too far out of reach, but you must keep her thinking about you. but probably the best advice i can give you is to keep yourself busy and let this all follow through by itself. there's nothing you can do by worrying, so why worry about it? Hope everything works out buddy.

Answer 6

She still does care for you but still isn't sure of her feelings. if you really do care for her and aren't ready to let her officially go....then try to get back together with her. tell her your true feelings and you're not ready to be with someone else as you're not ready for her to be with someone else. go over why you broke up in the first place and why you both decided to break up. the reason why she is mad is because when you ask her that question, she is either: A.) Thought you were going to ask to get back together with her. or B.) she's angry that you don't undertand that she's not ready to move on yet.
She does care that you're not together but we women are quiet about it because our quietness means we are going through the moments in our head when we were together or when we broke up, telling ourselves that everything will be okay, or sometimes just wishing that we could go back. Give her and yourself another chance and just talk with her and ask what she feels. if you tell her what you feel, she will too.

Good Luck to the both of you.

Answer 7

Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't agree than you have to begin moving on. Perhaps someday down the road about 6-7 months in from experience you may me getting back together.

Answer 8

I hate to say this but it really sounds like she is just keeping you around in case she can't " find anyone better"
I know this sounds terrible but it is the truth many of my friends do this sort of thing. That is why you are getting to experience the roller coaster ride of her emotions.
My best advice is for you to move on...Don't allow for yourself to be her doormat... Stand up to her and tell her that she needs to make up her mind because you don't have time for her crap.
You are better than this my friend...just move on!

Answer 9

Again to begin you are broken up...why are you together? Why are you asking each other these questions? AND you both are too old to be acting this way. Don't be with her, or want to be with her, because you don't want her with someone else. Bottom line... grow up...move on!

Answer 10

Out of site is out of mind. YOu have to stop talking to her and just try to forget about her. The more you talk to her the more you rehash old memories and feelings and will never get over her.