i dont knwo what to wear or do, i know im gonna cry , hse is too, i resently came into contact with her via eamil, my parents divorced when i was 1 and i havent seen her sinse, im 17 now and we are planning to meet, what do i do???????????
2006-08-02 06:41:20 · 9 answers · asked by veri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so happy for you! How exciting to get to meet your Mom after all this time!
Wear whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and pretty. Fix your hair in a style that has gotten you the most compliments in the past. And, if you wear makeup, go easy on it ... nothing extreme. (Either skip the mascara, or be sure that what you use is waterproof!)
Knowing that you will probably spend at least some time crying that day, it might be a nice touch to find a couple matching or coordinating handkerchiefs and give one of them to her when you first meet. You can both use them during your visit, and each keep them as a souvenier of the day you met.
You'll have a great time comparing physical features ... what is similar, and what is not; and habits, traits and talents, likes and dislikes that you might have inherited from her, and what you both are/do that is the same.
I was removed from my birth mother by the State of Kansas in 1947 and put up for adoption. She was a widow with seven children ... I was number eight, and I was illegitimate. The State declared her an unfit mother and put us all in a children's home. The others were eventually returned to her, but I had already been adopted, even though she went to court to try to get me back. Those children were old enough to know that I had been born and taken away, and 50 years later, the four sisters tracked me down, and we met at that children's home. By then our birth mother was dead, so I never got to meet her. The brothers weren't interested in meeting me, but I still remain in contact with three of the sisters (the fourth one died last year). We had a great time catching up on our lives and comparing likes, talents, jobs, etc. We had a lot in common. I found out I have many of the same talents, habits, etc. as our birth mother. They said I look remarkably like her, and I can see a lot of resemblance to a couple of my birth sisters. Also, they were relieved to learn that I had grown up in a wonderful family as the oldest of five children.
I had a wonderful reunion with my birth sisters, and I'll be praying for a similar joy for you and your Mother!
2006-08-03 09:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by baeb47 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I don't have any advice for you, but I'm sending you HUGE hugs, & best wishes.
I guess I'd just say, wear what you feel comfortable in. And don't try to think too much in advance, of how you think you should act. I imagine it's gonna be a pretty emotional time for ALL of you; so just go w/ it, & understand that there are no "right or wrong" emotions. (And w/ all those feelings flying around, I doubt your attire will really make much difference!!)
On a personal note, I adopted my little boy @ birth (I was actually the birth coach for the biological mom!). She & I didn't stay in touch (her choice----understandably!); but I hope someday that they can meet. My son is almost 9 now, & asks lots of questions about her, like if I think she'd ever want to meet him, & would it make me sad if he wants to meet her....that kinda stuff.
Anyway, if he ever does get to meet her, I'm sure he'll be nervous. I hope I'll be able to help him through it.
Best of luck to you!!!!!
2006-08-02 06:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to dress like you're going to a beauty pageant. Just act natural. Calm down! She's your mother and I'm sure she'll love you just the way you are. Wear something casual. Go somewhere that's nice and quiet, so you two could really talk. Ask simple questions first. "How are you?" "Did you have a good trip?" "Nice weather we're having today, huh?" Whatever. Then move on to the big questions. I'm sure you'll do fine.
I wish you all the luck in the world!
2006-08-02 06:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Petra M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not meet my birth mother until i was 48
take it easy, do not judge and let her talk. Ask the questions that you want answeered, but accept her answers with out comment.
if you are angry about the situation, do not meet your mother, you will need to find a diferent way to deal with your anger.
what you wear, and if you cry or not really does not matter. have a good time, relax and know that she is just a scared as you are.
2006-08-02 06:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by ellisd1950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,wear what ever,doesnt make any difference but be yourself and trust me you cannot prepare for such an occassion,let it be natural,take it as it comes,flow with the course and just enjoy every moment of it......there cannot be a bigger celebration than this....
2006-08-02 06:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so happy for you. Just chill out and be yourself. It isn't going to matter what you are wearing. Your mom is just going to be happy to see you.
2006-08-02 06:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It dosent mater what you look like. Its only your moms love that's seen in this number. GOOD LUCK ON IT!
2006-08-02 06:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by asawyerj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. She'll just be estatic to see you!
2006-08-02 06:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by E Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself
2006-08-02 06:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by durb1215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋