My boyfriend wants to have a threesome??!!?!...?

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My boyfriend wants to have a threesome??!!?!...
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and he wants to have a threesome....i mean i couldnt never let him have sex with another girl in front of me ya know? i just couldnt..so i told him i might be up for doing a threesome thing but with no sex just fourplay i mean we could have sex just not them haha I'm just scared he will expect me to do it all the time and i feel like hes saying he doesnt want to just be with me and not have feelings for other girls help!!!!

Answer 1

That's a bad sign! If he wants to have a threesome then he isn't fully committed to you!! That means he wants to have physical relations with another woman! I would consider that cheating and a sign that he isn't fully committed to you! I would be so offended if my boyfriend ever asked me to do that! If you feel it's the right thing to do and you have the confidence to let it happen and not bother you then go for it but it seems horrible to me! Ask him to have a threesome with him and another guy and see how he reacts! If he gets mad then it shows that he wants to be able to be with another woman and you shouldn't be able to be with another man! It's disrespectful and not fair to you!

Answer 2

Well first of all its great to experiment so that a couple can keep an intense sexual tension between them. Having a threesome is every mans dream baby i wouldnt deny that but it has to be with two women off course.
I dont really think that in a threesome only two of you will have sex i mean come on the three of you will be all hot, sweety and horny come on that wouldnt happen. In a threesome trust me all three of you will have sex thats the bottom line.
I think if you have that trust in him he will accept you still and still love you. However he might want a few more times with two other women until he realise that its boring then he'll get fed up and that just human nature.
A word of advise don't tell him that you want a threesome with him and another man for most men thats a no no, so keep that topic under your skirt if yah know what i mean.
Hope that this enlightens you and answers your questions

Answer 3

okay, relax. don't freak out too much. you have to know already that threesomes are the heighth of stereo-typical male fantasy. supposedly, all men want one.

this doesn't mean he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, it just means he wants to try something new. here's what you can do:

explain that you don't want this to be a regular thing. don't rule out doing it agian in the future, but not on a monthly basis or anything. then you have to demand that you BOTH agree on the participant. also, i would suggest that you demand the participant NOT be a friend of his or yours. you can put an add in the paper, or you could break down and try a friend of yours. but never a friend of his...

start thinking about something you'd like to try, and use it as a bargaining chip. if you do his fantasy, he needs to do yours sort of thing, right?

an alternative to a threesome that might still satisfy him is voyerism. what if you two had sex with another person there, maybe involved during fore-play, but not the actual sex act? that was a good idea on your part.

and of course, if you don't want to do any of these things... then don't. do not do anything that you feel is degrading to yourself. threesomes aren't dirty, but if you feel that they are, then don't do it.

Answer 4

I have had many of threesomes myself and I have found that the best of them start with a conversation about boundary's. If he can not except that you do not want to see him having sex with another woman then do not do it. I think most guys just want the bragging rights and not really the two girls. In my experience most guys do not know what to do with a threesome after the girlfriend says yes.

Answer 5

threesomes are fun. You have to get past the jealousy part first though. I have had a lot of threesomes with my man and the way I feel about it is, yea my bf is having sex with another girl, but that's just sex, he loves me, he is with me, and he would do anything for me. She is just a piece of a s s.

Also, you need to remember that people have fantasy's outside of their boyfriend or girlfriend. He thinks others girl are hot. So what if he wants to have sex with other girls too, he is coming home to you at night.

That's just my opinion, I have never been the girl to deny my man from what he wants. I understand people have certain desires, and that's just how life it. So try it out, you may enjoy it =)

Answer 6

Well that all depends on you . To tell you the truth if you are not attracted to girls you cant do it . and if you are not sure about yourself and your relationship don't do it. The last thing you need is to feel that the girl was better than you or looks better than you . and that stays on your mined and then you will never look at him or your relationship the same. Now if your self esteem is high and you are curious why not just say instead of the 3some how about just you and her and he could watch. But like i said it's all on you . Don't do anything you are not comfortable with . It's not worth the problems.

Answer 7

A threesome is not meant for all people. If you do not want to participate, it is not your problem, explain your feelings to your boyfriend, if he is understanding he will drop the issue. If he still insists on a threesome, it would prove that he only cares about what he wants. In that case, dump him

Answer 8

If you allow a threesome he will expect it again , in the heat of things he may end up doing her, what if he runs into her when your not there? it will eventually undue your relationship ! i also think it it a way he thinks he can cheat with your permission. he wont be satisfied after that then hes going to want to try even more new things.

Answer 9

You can not have your cake and eat it too. You can not have a treesome with just foreplay. Thats like being really thirsty and someone bring yoou a tall glass of ice water and then drinking it in front of you and letting you have the condensation from the glass only.
If you are concerned about him having sex, suggest it be a guy who joins in. But remember...you can't have sex either!

Answer 10

First off... From personal experience, threesomes are VERY enjoyable!! Second: If you are NOT comfortable with it, DONT DO IT. Dump him if he cant understand this. If he cant show compassion because you DONT wanna do that, then he is going to give you grief over alot of things in your relationship. If you believe that he might expect that from you, DUMP HIS dum butt!