2006-08-02 06:11:51 · 20 answers · asked by dragonfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Good for you (for waiting)! It's normal to be worried about your first time (especially if it is on your wedding night). Just go with the flow...if he is experienced, he should be able to help you through it. If you are both virgins, then you will learn together. Just do what comes naturally.
2006-08-02 06:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lab Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is going to be nice. area of the rationalization I say it truly is you've already got both greatest issues of all going for you, and that i doubt you even comprehend it: First is that you're already discussing it. sex is not only the movements; it starts on your head with believe and communication. Couples can opt for decades without being waiting to do what you're doing already. the second one is that each of you is in contact about what the different needs. again, this isn't the case. As you're researching and exploring, you'll start up to comprehend what each of you needs...believe me in this! If uncertain, only ask. After that my suggestion is do not anticipate miracles the first time. once you're awkward, finally end up the lighting fixtures. Then only start up and luxuriate in. finally, i imagine this difficulty of discomfort is overstated. till he's hung like a stallion, there is no reason so that you are able to anticipate it truly is going to be painful, or that any discomfort could very last previous a pair minutes. and on account that he's already stated getting you "grew to develop into on", it truly is the fashion to circumvent or reduce discomfort. It lubricates and receives you waiting. besides, I felt no discomfort in any respect also, in at the moment's international, with energetic events or maybe tampons, it truly is a lot less hardship-free for human beings to bleed. i did not do this, both.
2016-11-27 20:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by dittman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do NOT worry about it. The mass media portrayal of mind-blowing lovemaking on the wedding night is just talk. When both the participants are virgins (and congratulations on keeping your commitment to remain abstinent until marriage!), this anxiety will spring up in both your minds.
Second, I'd like to recommend something that helped my wife and I before and after the wedding night -- ours wasn't quite bells and whistles, either, but we made it through. There's a book by Kevin Leman, a Christian psychologist who specializes in couples counseling, called Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. We bought it about a year before we got married because there's sections here for both the engaged and the married, and we both picked up that the wedding night isn't supposed to color our entire married lives. Over time, sex gets easier to do, but be careful that it doesn't get harder to talk about.
You don't have to be perfect, Geena (?), you and your spouse just have to be willing. I pray for every success for the two of you, and once again, congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
It's gonna be a FAST two weeks!
2006-08-02 06:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by ensign183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By rite i shouldn't be answering u but....
There's a saying which is like this.... A lady will feel very painful when she have sex for the first time when she is not married.. Reason being she is worried of unwanted pregnancies but won't feel as much pain when she got married. How true this saying is i am not sure u can try it out. Congrats and may u have a blissful life ahead.
2006-08-02 06:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Headache 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that's great so did i but that was 9 years ago and plus i was only 15 (something i regret doing i was sssoooooo young and DUMB)
Congrats
Take it slow this first time as it maybe a little bleeding nothing to worry about.
Again Congrats on your Wedding Day Have a Blessed one as well.
2006-08-02 06:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by Chae C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you waited. Your getting married obviously because you love this guy, you better want to have sex with him. Do not be worried. What part of having sex are you worried about? I think that's the best time to have sex when your marrying someone that you love and its your first time. It has to be beautiful!!!
2006-08-02 06:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by chaqualll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the first person on Yahoo Answers that feels the same way I do about staying a virgin until you get married. Don't be worried, you're getting MARRIED, that's huge! Congradulations! If he loves you, he won't care if it's bad, plus, if he's a good man, it'll be his first time too, so he shouldn't complain!
2006-08-03 14:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by ooh_rah07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be fine. I would focus more on the fact that its your wedding night and that you want that night to be special in itself, not because you are a virgin. Besides, once you start having sex it does not take long to get the hang of things.
Enjoy.
2006-08-02 06:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by msadvicegiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention your age but you sound VERY young. DIdn't know there were any virgins left on their wedding nights. I assume you are female but you did not say. Read some books on the subject fast. Are you really that naive? This sounds like a put on.
2006-08-02 06:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is outstanding that you waited til your wedding night. I congradulate you. You won't have old baggage to bring into your new marrage. Sex gets better with time. I have been married 18 years and it's still getting better, far better then the first time.
2006-08-02 06:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋