help anyone???!!!!??...
ok my bfriends brother likes me he told me and he kissed me. @ first i was schoked but as he went on kissing me i kind of liked it. i really love my boyfriend but i coudnt help feeling this way. i told my boyfriend about the kiss but not how i felt. he got mad about the kiss, and he fought his brother.at last me and his best friend stopped them but now they dnt talk to each other and he wont leave me alone with his family (like before). if im at his house with his sister he wants to be there with us and if his brother is there he wants us to leave. i dndt wanted this problem to get this bad and ive been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend even tough i love him. is not that i want to go out with his brother but is cuz i dnt want be the one that ruins their realtionship as brothers. can anyone give an advice? should i break up wiht him or what should i do??????!!!!!!??????
2006-08-02 06:01:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can really answer this question for you, you have to sort it out on your own.
But ask yourself:
Do you have any kind of future life with either one?
Do you want a future with either, knowing this problem is going to be sitting there the whole time?
In other words, do you really want a serious relationship with either guy, knowing that this tension is there? What kind of relationship would that become?
You are young. Why do you need either one? Find someone that has a solid family that has love, loyalty, and trust among it's members -- or date an only child.
If there is this kind of disloyalty between the brothers, then this level of immorality may also be in the makeup of your current boyfriend (but you haven't seen it yet) -- you have to look at this and decide. You are the only one involved with both. You are the only person with all the data.
Just look closely at them and their family and decide whether or not you want better. That's all.
2006-08-02 06:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at this point you have messed up the relationship between the brothers.. They only thing I can think of to do is to reassure your boyfriend that it won't happen again and tell him that you're sorry. If you can't reassure him.. then you should leave him. You hurt him.. You need to realize that. This is going to take a LOOONG time for him to get over if he gets over it at all. Give him some time and if things don't work out then leave him. There's no sense in hurting him any further.
2006-08-02 06:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Monkeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you didnt kiss him back then like it wasnt your fault but if you kissed him bak then you probly need to prove to your boyfriend that your his by like planning a pretend slap on his brother and like cus him out or sumthing like that well at least thats what I did. If you love him the best thing to do is make him believe your his because if you dont he'll want revenge....for more info e-mail me at crazypeoples_88@hotmail.com
2006-08-02 06:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by green_skittle1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the damage is already done,why do you want to be the bad one and hurt him by dumping him with no fault of his?
the best for you would be clear things between him and his brother,explain to him that you feel responsible for all this and dont want to be the cause of bad relations between the brothers....if he agrees well n good but if not then i guess you should stop going to his house and see him else where.....
2006-08-02 06:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask a question like this then it doesn't sound like you are mature enough to know what I think, but I'll tell you anyway. If you really love someone let them go... If it is meant to be you will find your way back.
2006-08-02 06:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by isellpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is right for you,him, and everyone that is in this situation.If you think that it would be best for you two to separate and just be friends then just break up with him. but dont tell him about what you really felt about his brother kissing you it will destroy the relationship that you two have now.
2006-08-02 06:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by brandy625 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should step out of the picture and let their relationship heal. Blood is thicker than water. Girlfriends may come and go, but family is always family.
2006-08-02 06:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i dont know
but mabye you can talk to ur boyfriend
tell him that being mad at his brother is not how to dill with things
second of all you should of told his brother this isnt right.
but im sorry what happened
best wishes for ya
2006-08-02 06:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by nobody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should follow your heart. If u lie his brother and wanna break up with yuor boy friend it is up to u ok
2006-08-02 06:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Country_Girll. (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldn't have told him
just shouldn't have let it happen again
but if i was a guy and my girl kissed my guy instead of stoppin him or tellin him i'm in a relationship and i don't do that
i would kick that girl to the curb
that's my opinion
2006-08-02 06:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by TrackStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋