Would you ever consider?

Question

Doing a criminal background and financial credit check on someone you are interested in dating? Certainly these could potentially affect my personal level of interest in a relationship, yet I don't think I would ever consider doing this. What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

First and foremost....cute pic.
I think if you do a criminal background check and credit check on a potential "new love"...you might ruin it before it starts.
When we go into a relationship....we learn about the other person....and get to know their qualities and faults....and if we are truly interested in this person (and possibly in love) then it's up to us, to accept that person for what and whom she/he is, regardless of their past and/or financial status.

Answer 2

I have certainly never entertained this idea but think it's probably not that bad an idea. Not so much their financial credit information but their criminal background check might be useful. I know it sounds like their is a lack of trust but in today's society who knows what things people may be hiding. At my age and growing up in the generation I did many people may have been involved in some criminal activities. Great question by the way.

Answer 3

I wouldn't do a credit check but a criminal background check wouldn't be out of the question; particularly if this person will be interacting with your child.

A more important question might be why you would feel it is necessary. If this potential companion throwing off signals that indicate an unstable past shouldn't that be enough to make you err on the side of caution? :)

Answer 4

In Wisconsin, you can check the circuit court on line to view a person's records- everything from speeding tickets, bad checks, drunk driving, failure to pay child support, etc. I've used it. I wouldn't run a financial credit check though.

Example: I was at a singles mixer, and this guy asked me out for a date, he seemed nice, ran his own business, clean cut. I ran his name, and here he'd been charged with attempted kidnapping, sexual assault, and a slough of other things. He had pleaded not guilty by mental disease or defect.l It was three years before I met him, but I still didn't go out with him. Everyone deserves a second chance, but I didn't want to be his second victim.

Answer 5

Yes if those things are important to you and you have reason to believe that they are in question.
I would definitely check their criminal history because I don't want to get involved with someone who is on probation or parole or who is dangerous.
With regard to credit, I'm broke myself so the pot can't call the kettle black.
I would check his work history as opposed to credit to see if he holds a job and is a good worker.

Answer 6

I guess if you've been bitten by somebody with those qualities, yes I s'pose you would have potential dates checked out b4 you got too far. But if you get a good woman and she finds out you had her checked out, does that in itself create a mistrust right off the bat to start with. Dunno! Getting back out there is hard. All the best to ya hope you find what you looking for.

Answer 7

i did it like a couple of weeks ago to a guy i like, when something bad came out of the report i ask him, in a bad way and he got mad, i said i was sorry but it is not the same any more, we still talk but not the same mood. one of the results came out that he beat up his wife, and he did not say anything, he told me when i confronted him it is not him. and he will give me evidence, but there is something in my heart that does not believe him. He is 34 and i am 24 don't know if i did it wrong or right

Answer 8

No, I think it's invasion of privacy(what happens if u don't work out, u still no this about someone). Think of them doing it to U and holding it over your head or using U because of it!

Answer 9

not a good idea..if u cant trust that person from the beginning then stop right there or just talk to get that kinda info...its better to talk thats a good start

Answer 10

although it may sound like a good idea...if you are serious about starting something you may want to just ask her. You look like you are a good judge of character.....try that...if you start going behind her back now it really isn't a good start.