I LOVE THREESOMES!!! OMG SO MUCH FUN! The trick is you both have to be secure of your relationship...if there are already problems DONT DO IT!!! You will lose the relationship entirely. Secondly, neither party can be jealous! If either one of you have a jealous streak, DONT DO IT!!! Last: If you decide to do it, have fun! Its an entirely new sensation that I think every person should be open to. Good luck.
2006-08-02 06:02:03
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answered by Angel Eve 6
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There are two big issues here. The first is that regardless of what you say he wants to do it anyway. This tells me he doesn't respect you or the relationship. He is basically saying he is doing this for himself and doesn't care what affect it has on you and the relationship. The second issue is that you are scared and you are genuinely concerned about not only the affect on your relationship but about how you will be viewed. When you take these two issues in to consideration then it seems obvious that the swinging scene isn't for you. You should tell him that no you are not willing to get into the swinging scene because you love him and you don't want to share him with anyone else or be shared by him. If he can't respect that and be happy then your relationship with each other is a farce and it is time for you to dump him and move on.
2006-08-02 06:02:24
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answered by rkrell 7
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You can't really imagine that this can be in any way good for your relationship. If you really loved each other--I mean real love--you would want to guard and protect what you have with each other. Of course he or you might fall for someone else. What's to stop that from happening? At the very least, you'll have lots of people to compare each other to. Yuck!
Maybe he has a "hard time being faithful" and is using this as an excuse to get some "unfamiliar sex" for himself. A man doesn't usually want to share his woman--not if he really loves her.
It's time to let him go and for you to move on. Don't participate in this. People who have "unfamiliar sex" have demonstrated their lack personal character, and people who are committed to someone and still have "unfamiliar sex" have demonstrated their lack of character even more. You should desire so much better from your man and from yourself.
2006-08-02 06:07:45
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answered by happygirl 6
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playing with fire.
actually the way I've always seen this go down - guy wants to swing, talks reluctant girl into swinging, girl has the time of her life and starts ignoring boy gfor the new girlfriend she's made, next thing you know, girl is essentially cheating on boy with whoever hse likes, boy totally regrets ever swinging in the first place, and a lesson is learned.
imo - if you're looking at swinging, something is fundamentally flawed in your relationship to begin with. The only people i know who have open relationships with any sort of success are sex workers who are dating each other.
2006-08-02 06:23:20
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answered by China J 3
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If you have to ask, you don't really want to do it and should tell your boyfriend how you feel. If he refuses to listen and still says he wants to do it anyways, then tell him, he will have to find someone else to do it with. Period.
If you are having a hard time remaining faithful and see this as an opportunity to have sex outside of this relationship then this isn't that great of a relationship to begin with and the two of you should separate and find someone who is right for the both of you anyway. He obviously isn't the right one nor are you for him.
2006-08-02 06:06:02
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answered by Jen 6
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If you are looking for a meaningful relationship DO NOT swing. This should be obvious. Swingers do not have stable relationships - swinging is simply about sex! Nothing more.
2006-08-02 06:00:56
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answered by 'Barn 6
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1) if you don't think your relationship is strong enough for this the it isn't. 2) if your b/f will not respect you thoughts, feelings, and fears is he really the right person for you? 3) If you have a difficult time being faithful, is this the right time to be in a relationship with anyone?? don't swing just to save the relationship or make your b/f happy. you will come to regret it
2006-08-02 06:08:59
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answered by Anonymous
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You cant make a ho a housewife, and you can't make a swinger a husband.
If you really care about each other you need be faithful.
If you just want to get off and care less what the other thinks, then first be honest, and swing away.
2006-08-02 06:01:37
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answered by Anonymous
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Some thing in life that once the are done, can never be undone. If this is something you can do and still be safe in your relationship, I'd say lots of people are in that lifestyle already and it works for them.
However, you already said that you don't want to lose him over this. I don't think the relationship will last very long in this environment.
2006-08-02 06:02:01
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answered by noise 2
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Love is an Emotional, spiritual, physical bond between 2 concenting adults. He is not in love with you, or he would not want other physical contact. He is finding a way to cheat so that you will think it is OK. Dump the bumb. Move on and find a real true love.
2006-08-02 06:03:43
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answered by Joseph L 4
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