and the child father also does the samething,but he only has to deal with the child once every two weeks,the child is so rotten that the mother cant handle it and constantly complains but continues to spoil the child because she has no idea how to raise kids.
and then you get stuck baby sitting the brat and it embarrasses you when you out in public example she falls in the floor of the super market haveing a tempertantrum.
And i think 3 yrs old she should be party trained and should have stopped breast feeding,now i have a child on the way with her and i dont want my son to turn out like that what should i do?
now for the most part the child behaves around me but when she see's her mother she acts a fool ,she yells at her mother throws things and when ever i disapplend her ,her mother picks her up and it starts all over again.
now this is a familly trait because the mother has two brothers one 42 the other 39 they both still live with they mother
2006-08-02 05:46:40 · 7 answers · asked by bluff_mike 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
P.S i have a 10 yr old daughter of my own that i will not bring around because i dont want my kid to see me let this little girl act the way she does ,theres only so much i can do because the little girl is not my bio daughter
2006-08-02 05:48:41 · update #1
The best thing you can do is lead by example. Show them how well yu do by not spoiling your own daughter. Their child may actually feel peer pressure form your daughter and not want all of the spoiling from her own parents.
Children learn from all around. You sound like you may be a good role model.
2006-08-02 05:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Billy! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said it, there isn't a whole olt you can do because she isn't your child. If you and her mother were to get married, you would have firmer ground to stand on. At 3, that child should NOT be brest feeding, and she should at least be interested in using the toilet. You and your girlfriend should sit down and work out a list of consequenses for the little girls behavior. Inform the child of the new rules and both of you enforce them equally. The daughter will rebel, until she learns that you are serious. Eventually, if you are consistent and keep at it, she will give up and let you guys be in charge.
2006-08-02 12:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is up to the mother to sort out,
Have you spoke to your girlfriens about how you feel?
Afterall you are part of the family and should be expected to help with problems like this one.
Maybe you could suggest ways of coping when the child has a tantrum.
Yes your GF is wrong to give in to the tantrums because the daughter knows she will get what she wants from mummy.
Also, have you considered your GF's reasons for spoiling her in the first place? Is she trying to compete for the childs love with the bio father?
If you do a search on toddler tantrums, you will come up with suggestions BUT they need strong determination from the mother not to give in!!!
Good luck.
2006-08-02 12:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? Not much because it isn't your responsibility. I know it must be hard to witness, but in this case, you are powerless.
If you really don't enjoy baby-sitting her, try telling the mother tactfully and in a sensitive way that she is too much for you to handle, and that you feel that the lack of discipline in this child's life will harm her in the end.
I understand your concern, but your baby will not act like this if you have a firm and loving hand.
2006-08-02 13:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is show the child how to behave properly when she is with you. You can't change the mother who apparently is willing to put up with her child's behavior. It might be good to tell your friend that you won't watch her child after your baby is born because of the discipline problem you have with her child.
2006-08-02 13:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that does the same thing.
Tell your friend you think it might help her deal with her daughter better if she takes some parenting classes. They also have lots of books on parenting. Suggest some books to her or go buy her one and tell her your trying to help her.
Hope she can get ahold of this before the child is older
Good Luck
2006-08-02 12:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your g/f needs some parenting classes if she dosent get a grip on this child now the child will ruin things for you and the g/f...unintentionally things can go very wrong in a relationship if both parents dont agree on values for children,,, go with her to counceling it will help you understand how to deal with the step child
2006-08-02 12:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋