there's someone from work who i've been interested in for some time. like myself, she's quite shy. i tried every excuse to visit her department so that i could bump into her & talk but usually choked. last year, i finally had the courage to ask her out. unfortunately, she turned me down. though i was torn, i just let it go & left her be. about a week after that, i bumped into her in the cafeteria & we had a little chat. i asked her if she'd be interested to have coffee with me & she said yes. but when i asked her about it a few days later, oddly enough, she said she wasn't interested. i figured that i should just step away & leave her be. i only went to her department if i really had to & tried to stay away from her so that she won't feel threatened. shortly after though, i caught her a few times looking at me at the cafeteria. also, she started having dinner by herself. one of my friends who works with her said that i should go talk to her & try my luck again. should i?
2006-08-02 05:44:28 · 12 answers · asked by hugmeshootme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not planning on staying around for much longer on my current job, so i guess if it doesnt work out i could always leave. also, one of my mates said that he saw us say hi to each other one time, but being the idiot that i am, i kept away from her. apparently, it seemed like she wanted me to talk to her. what changed? i'm just confused, i guess.
2006-08-02 06:01:48 · update #1
I would show up where she is having dinner, with your dinner, and ask if her extra seat is available. Maybe she is scared of the implications of an office romance, maybe she is nervous of the fomality of a date, maybe she is simply unsure about you. So approach it nonchalantly. chit chat - don't interview. Tell her you enjoyed her company as you excuse yourself, but don't ask her out. Show her you would be open to it, but aren't pushing for it. The guys I am the most attracted to are the ones that don't fall all over me.
2006-08-02 05:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by hmmmmmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of thumb.....never date someone you work with. Have you thought of the consequences if you did date and then things didn't work out? Offices are very fickle, they could make your life so miserable you would have to quit your job. My advise, let her be and find someone who doesn't work with you.
2006-08-02 05:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No in my experience you already walked down that plank...it is not your job to keep going back...maybe when she turned you down she was dealing with other things but unless you really got it bad for this girl...I would say cut your losses and do NOT ask her OUT again....nothing wrong with talking to her but I repeat do NOT ASK HER OUT AGAIN.
2006-08-02 05:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Confused Friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u REALY like her u should ask her out again...if u think it's just gonna be a fling than don't bother. If u REALLY like her get to kno her a little bit more and then ask her out again. <333
2006-08-02 05:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask her out three times and she says no every time, don't ask any more. She knows you're interested, if something changes, she'll let you know (but don't count on it)
2006-08-02 05:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by say wat? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A workplace romance isn't a smart idea.
2006-08-02 05:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not interested...forget about it move on...she's saving you both the trouble...date other girls...
Good luck
2006-08-02 05:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait for a llittle moment and see what perspires,you may never know what she might be up to.....
2006-08-02 05:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by SLICK4YOU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know whats wrong with that girl, she doesn't seem to know what she wants. don't try again, she isn't worth it.
2006-08-02 05:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋