What would be a nice way to make a remark?
2006-08-02 05:27:28 · 14 answers · asked by Bob Roberts 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It depends upon the woman, but many do.
I think a lot of it has to do with what the woman wants to be appreciated for - her looks, brains, personality, or whatever. If a woman cherishes her looks, and believes that she derives much of her worth as a person from them (which I personally think would be very unfortunate), then she will appreciate a respectful remark about her beauty. If a woman wished more people would recognize her beauty, you'll earn big points for doing so (the converse can be true - someone who hears about nothing else but her looks might be annoyed if you tell her the same thing she's heard a million times before - probably because she wishes people would notice some of her other attractive qualities). Acknowledging (with a compliment) that a woman made particular effort to prepare for a special occasion would also usually be welcome.
However, if I were at a party and were, say, ten minutes into a stimulating conversation with somebody, I would be very annoyed to be complimented on my looks at that point. I would much rather be appreciated for my intelligence or personality, and that far into a conversation, the other person should have a pretty good feel for it.
It's something you really have to judge on a case-by-case basis. There are as many different answers to those questions as there are women to compliment!
2006-08-02 06:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What am odd question. I've never,ever been offended. And I've even had women, not lesbians either, remark on my looks. I just smile warmly in reply or say thank you or say something kind in return. Sometimes I'll say, that I hope my inner beauty shines brighter than my outward beauty and then of course that brings up another compliment. Really, this question is so odd to me. I've never been offended. I can't imagine why any woman would be.
2006-08-02 18:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that women get offended when someone gives them a compliment, I think that it's just that some are not used to hearing it all the time and when they do hear it they don't believe it and say to themselves "okay, whatever". It's the self-esteem issue. If your self-esteem is down, then your not going to be open to pretty much anything, and especially compliments. A woman's emotions are so complex that there has to be so many levels of trust that men and other women can't handle it. It takes a woman a long to trust a man and longer to trust other women. But eventually it happens and when it does those women will be open to more things and accepting compliments is one of them.
2006-08-02 12:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women I know, have a hard time taking a compliment, instead of just saying a simple thank you, they say things like, "Oh, I look like such a mess" or "I'm in a hurry and just threw whatever on". I have no idea as to why. If you want to compliment someone, just tell them how nice they are looking.
2006-08-02 12:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, Don't mention body parts, but notice inner beauty hair, makeup or just generally looking lovely. Most women want to be respected
2006-08-02 12:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by gottabeglam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take absolutely no offense at all. It is my experience, that as I become older, I get less compliments-I cherish the ones I do get. However, I "deal" with the "dirty old men" and try to act polite. I hope that it works.
2006-08-02 12:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept compliments in the spirit they are made in.
I say thank you and move on.
a good compliment would be
How nice you look today.!
How pretty that color looks on you.!
You always look so nice!
You are looking so good.!
bad would be anything said about a body part or what you would like to do to it
2006-08-02 12:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet her, stop and tell her "Wow you are beautiful," but be sincere and dont act like a cheese ball. And then stop hitting on her, she will know that you already thinks shes pretty, and she will remember that next time she sees you too.
2006-08-02 14:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by asdf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't object or get angry from a looks comment, I like them.
Does anyone else?
Other girls address girls with specifics: Nice Skirt/ Nice Blouse, looks good on you/ great colour/ oooh, where did you get that?
"you're cute / you're beautiful" is left for the BF
2006-08-02 12:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, "you got nice jugs" is NOT a respectful remark.
2006-08-02 12:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋