I am quite often followed around stores when I am shopping, sometimes by more than one man. Sometimes they follow me outside. Sometimes they talk to me. Often I am alone, but sometimes it happens even when I am shopping with other people. I am unsure if I should be flattered or scared. What do you think?
2006-08-02 05:14:33 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't look like stalking material...no offense. We can't all be beautiful like me.
2006-08-02 05:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "stalker" is extremely subjective. For thousands of generations men have pursued women. That is absolutely natural and it is seen in every species on earth. So it depends on the motive and does the guy respect your human rights. You must be cautious because there isn't any way for you to know what is in their minds. So, if was me, a little of both - Flattered and scared.
It puts guys in a terrible position when women do everything they can to be attractive and then get angry if guys are attracted to them. If you''re interested then the guy is a potential suitor, if you aren't interested he is a "stalker". All I can say is that women need to make sure they are sending clear signals about - maybe or no way - and then guys need to accept that no means no.
Please be fair and don't label anyone a "stalker" unless they appear to be sneaking around, invading your privacy, or won't take no for an answer. Do women want to prevent all men from being allowed to approach them at all? I don't think most do.
If some guy appears to be following you, go to a store clerk and ask them to call security, especially if you are about to leave. That way at least they will be alerted to ID him and keep an eye on things. If he knows he's been ID'd and isn't a total idiot, he won't be likely to do anything to harm you.
2006-08-02 05:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flattered and be scared!
What man in his right mind would follow a woman around without saying anything? I would suggest you deal with it so that it never has a chance to get out of bounds.
Just a quick comment to a store employee about the guy should be enough to discourage most. If an employee isn't readily available walk up to another customer an describe your problem. A woman will certainly understand and a man will immediately become defensive for you!
I hope that this helps.
2006-08-02 05:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for them all, but some of them may be plain clothes store security. Alot of times they will nonchalantly follow young people/teenagers around the store to keep an eye on them and catch them if they are shoplifting. The ones that follow you outside and talk to you.....I don't know...could be stalkers or still might be security. But in any case, I wouldn't take it lightly....it may be nothing to worry about but you shouldn't take the chance. If a guy is obviously following you and it isn't just a guy shopping who happens to be going through the same isles as you, you should report it to store security. If it's always different guys and not the same guy all the time, I might be inclined to think it's just coincidence....the odds of multiple stalkers always stalking the same girl are very low, but not out of the question. Again....if you're scared....report it to store security. That's another thing....seems like it only happens when you're shopping in stores....leads me to think it's under cover store security. Has any of this happened around your home, or when you're other places and not in a store or shopping? Keep your eyes open....if it happens around your home.....be sure to call the police. Good luck and I hope it turns out to be nothing to worry about.
2006-08-02 05:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by typicalguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing flattering about being stalked. If you are out and about, you should always go somewhere with someone. If you really feel uncomfortable, try to find a crowd or always have your cell phone so then you can call the police or a friend to help you. And another thing...run like hell! Good luck1
2006-08-02 05:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by bicheeeened30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flattered if they compliment you and let you be, scared if they continue to follow you after you've spoken or don't make contact at all just follow you. Be careful and always let someone know where your going, or avoid going to places alone especially at night or in secluded areas. Take care!
2006-08-02 05:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same man/men that you see all the time? If not then I wouldn't be too scared but these days you never know what can happen. Just be careful
2006-08-02 05:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? All the time. I would be scared. I think some of it is store security. No offense, but are you doing something to attrack this kind of attention? Really, no offense.
2006-08-02 05:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they know when to quit, you should be fine. If they keep following you all the time, then there's a problem.
2006-08-02 05:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be more aware of that cause it could lead to you being harmed. When going out, be with more people and never go any where alone.
2006-08-02 05:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you look like a known shopliflter. admiration is always flattering but if someone is behaving disrespectfully twards you or your space then thats not right either
2006-08-02 05:19:12 · answer #11 · answered by big question 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋