I would like to spend moretime with my father, but i see that his too busy for that. what should I do?

Question

I can spend time with my instructor his a science proffesor I see goodness inside him, but I dont know for some reason I want him to be my dad. Unfortunately I cant have him because he already have his own kids. Maybe his good and he has enough time with his kids but it seems my father is too busy to have all this stuff he would rather want me away with him. I dont feel I'm a member of this family! What should I do

Answer 1

Play him that cat's cradle song. Works everytime.

Answer 2

i agree.. this is something that you should tell him soon ..the sooner the better ...if you are both committed to trying to fit and make room for each other then it will work... try what my sister and my dad did write letters to each other through the mail... on you thoughts and what your and his interests are......

.....also try having daughter and father dates...go get dinner..movie or just and ice cream...it's the time in the car and the time alone together that counts also involve your self more with the other family don't hold back involve your self...and he will see tha you are trying and he will try too...also make him truly aware of what you are wanting from this relationship a DAD not a FATHER.

there are differences and let him know....TALKING is the key to a great relationship with parents.....

..just talk..

...good luck...and i hope every thing works well for you.....and your DAD...

Answer 3

You have to learn better communication skills. The only way you are going to be heard is if you learn to speak up for yourself and tell people how you truly feel, especially concerning your dad. People are only humans and can't read minds. Go and talk to your dad and tell him that you want to spend time with him. If he is too busy, be sarcastic and schedule an appointment with him. But for real, the only way he is going to know what you are feeling is if you tell him. If he still doesn't come around, it is his loss. He will be the one feeling lonely when he gets older. Remember when you have your own children to treat them good, because they will be picking your nursing home.

Answer 4

you should go and be truthful and tell your father how you feel and let him know that you would love to spend more time with him and do things like sort of a one on one thing, maybe go fishing or go camping, or just chat with each other for a while. i know i wish my dad more time for me also when i was growing up. the truth only hurts for a little while but the memories are there forever.

Answer 5

You can tell your dad that you miss him. He loves you and has lots of responsibilities. He's worried and forgets his important part of being a father sometimes. Maybe you just need to remind him a little.

Answer 6

Just tell your dad that you really would like to spend some time with him. That you don't see him much since he's always so busy and that you miss him.

Answer 7

try to see your dad for who he is rather than measuring him againest someone else(easier said than done). ask him if you could tag along for a day or an hour, whatever.......try and get intrested in something he does and do it with him

just ask him for some time together

Answer 8

try doing what your dad does with him, like golfing, fishing, working on the car, try to join him for things he's already doing so it doesn't take extra time. show interest in what he does (yardwork? television shows?)