How do I handle Grandma playing favorites?

Question

My mom favors my daughter over my son and my nephew.

She does not see my nephew beacause my brother bo longer speaks to her for other reasons and for he fact that she told my siter in law that my daughter would always be the most special to her.

Any way, she always wants to do stuff with my daughter and leaves my son out. And when they fight or something she always takes my daughters side, even if she is wrong. My son is 4 now and he is starting to see it and he feels left out. what should I do?

I have tried to tell her but she thinks i am crazy and she treats them excatly the same. She does buy them equels presents for holidays and b-dyas, but i want her to be fair in other ways. i am kina worried about her having both of them always cause she will plays favorites and I won't be there to intervine.

Answer 1

Talk to your mom, explain to her that what she is doing isn't fair to your son, if she won't stop and you still want your daughter to have your mother in her life, when she spends time with her, take your son to do something special with just you and him, that way both children are getting attention.

Answer 2

Talk to your mother immediately and let her know that while you appreciate her love and attention for your daughter, your son is hurting over it.

Sometimes they don't realize it, and it just needs to be pointed out. Also tell her that you just can't allow it to go on. If you are kind and gentle with her, she may see her error.

If not, you may have to tell her you want to limit her interaction with your daughter, unless it's a supervised activity with all four of you doing things together.

Answer 3

Have you tried talking to her?? Ask her why she is leaving the two little boys out. if she says "because shes a girl" tell her its not fair and that your son and nephew love you, you just dont love them back because all of your love is focused on your daughter

Answer 4

The first grand child is often the favorite, and women tend to favor girls over boys sometimes. But these are your children and you do have the right to speak to your mother about this and tell her how you feel. If all else fails, maybe you should try your brothers solution.

Answer 5

I have the same problem with my MIL showing preference of one daughter over the other. I don't let her around my kids but once a week and for family gatherings. This way, it's not noticeable, and she tends to be more appreciative of seeing all the kids.

Answer 6

You should do what my fiance does, and just don't allow her to see her unless she takes both of them and make sure she treats them equally! That isn't right my fiances daughter is going through that as we speak whenever she goes his parents home because they favor his son and that really eats her and my fiance up it's not healthy!

Answer 7

I would keep both from her until she agrees to be equal with her love...if she wants to see your daughter she must treat your son the same..or she will lose both

Answer 8

My dad prefers my son to my daughter ... maybe it's because they feel more comfortable with a member of their own sex?

Maybe you should talk to your mum about it - or stop taking the kids to see her for a while?

Answer 9

Talk to her about it and tell her that it is hurting your son. If she continues to do it, then maybe she shouldn't be around your daughter so much.

Answer 10

they seem to do that alot. if its their 1st grandchild it seems that they are closer. u need to have a talk with her and tell her that she has other grand kids and just that one. and tell her that when the one she favors grows up will turn on her. my mother in law is going thru that with her grandson. and my daughter is the same way with my mom.