Lets say your involved with someone and OUTSIDE of the bedroom every aspect of the relationship is 100%, absolutely, just perfect! You wouldn't change a thing even if a genie gave you three wishes. But once the BEDROOM door closes everything goes wrong, because your a freak in heat and your mate isn't!!!! You want to try different things but they aren't into it. Your willing to indulge ANY fantasy they have (whip me, beat me, just do something freaky with me) but they have none. You want sex daily (or at least several times a week) but they are happy with once or twice. You want spontaneity (where ever & when ever) but they only want it in the bedroom. They aren't doing it to be mean to you but they are happy and don't realize you aren't. Now what do ya do with this fine mess???
Would you leave them?
Would you keep trying?
Would you cheat with others?
Would you take a lot of cold showers and try to live with it?
2006-08-02 04:21:02 · 11 answers · asked by DialM4Speed 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you're quite the minx. She's probably never come across someone such as yourself and has probably dated lame guys and doesn't know how to let go.
Give it a bit. She sounds like a great girl so don't leave her because she's shy in the sack.
Advice - Drink a little wine, smoke a little tree and she will definitely turn into the freak you want her to be.
2006-08-02 04:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that would never happen in the real world but if that did happen I would have to tell the other person how I feel because I couldn't live like that in that situation without (doing it) & no I wouldn't leave them because if that's the only problems then we as a couple have to work them out together we would figure something out.Like do it his way for a few weeks then mine for the next few weeks.Yes I would keep trying because I suposeably care about that person.No I wouldnt cheat on that person that's wrong.
2006-08-02 11:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by ftwtnb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This varies from person to person and what that person defines as important. Odds are that the two people you describe wouldn't have really had that much in common. The odds of bedroom style being so dramatically different and lifestyle being so perfectly in sync are about a billion to one. But, if your in that one in a billion situation then you take a lot of cold showers and live with it. Lets face it, you don't need sex all the time, you like having sex often.
2006-08-02 11:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent about a year living with someone in a similar situation. We seemed to work well as a unit, but they weren't as into the bedroom hijinks. Five months passed by and every advance rebuffed. I thought it was something to do with some of the other things going on in his life at the time. At the end, he dumped me on my birthday telling me that he just wasn't attracted to me anymore.
This may not be the case in your situation, but I would try to talk to them about it. Don't be accusatory, just open the discussion and see what's going on. Medication, illness, and other factors can all effect the libido. Try to figure out why this is the case.
Don't cheat. It's bad karma and will only hurt yourself and your partner. If you're gonna cheat, you may as well end it now.
If you can't talk it out and reach some kind of resolution, then take stock of your relationship and see if you are truly happy. If you are, then try to think of a solution that is the best for you and your partner. But you shouldn't have to suck it up and deal. That's unfair to you to keep having to accept their rejection in the bedroom.
2006-08-02 11:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation right now and it sucks, but I'm working on it. I'm willing to wait for things to heat up, at least for a while anyways, some are just slower to catch on or feel comfortable enough to totally let go in the bedroom. I love this man so I have to be patient. It will all come together like its supposed to if it was meant to be.
2006-08-02 11:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask what the deal is? It isnt that important but spontaneity and creativity from time to time keeps the relationship alive, at least. If one is looking for that exciting element in their sex life, then sooner or later that person will either leave or get it somewhere else...so before that happens talk it out.
2006-08-02 11:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by r_y_s_s_a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot depends on the person and if I feel they are the right person for me. If you base your relationship as sex being one of the top priorities then you need to find someone compatible if this person wont change. You have to be happy in all ways in a relationship or they never last
2006-08-02 11:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a open talk with him. If that doesn't work move on.
There are lots of guys who like getting freaky.
2006-08-02 11:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by TIM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually just dealt with that....i dated the girl for about a month and a half and had to end it cause we weren't compatible in bed... it happens...move on.
2006-08-02 11:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is a big part!!! for EVERYONE! get them drunk if they don budge, just tell them how you feel somethings gotta happen sooner or later, if you love them that much, deal with the cold showers
2006-08-02 11:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by mystico6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋