It seems as though ladies are becoming more inclined today to have small intimate weddings with maybe 30-50 people instead of huge weddings with 100-300 people. I've also noticed that women are tending to want outdoor weddings more now than weddings in a church building. Why is that?
2006-08-02 04:18:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We don't have an exact date for our wedding yet, which means we haven't gotten into the heavy planning yet...that'll happen within the next month when he comes home though! :) YEY! I plan on dragging him down into that :) hahaha
However, we want a pretty big wedding. He has a lot of people he works with that he wants to invite, as do I...with school and my family also. We also have a lot of friends....it's not necessarily that we want a big wedding with lots of people, as we know lots of people who would probably be offended if we didn't invite them.
I do want the beautiful white dress wedding with my wonderful brides maids...not 15 though! We aren't going to have that many people at the altar with us, as it is all about...US! :) He isn't a Catholic (I am), yet...he wants to be converted though. We plan on doing that very soon also. He wants it in a cathedral, I wanted outside, but it's important to him...so in the church it is.
I think a lot of people go cheaper and smaller is for convenience and there are a lot more people getting remarried who don't want to go through that hassle again...small and intimate is easier for some! Also, I think it really has to do with money...sometimes it's just too expensive...so small and classys is just right :)
2006-08-02 14:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small and intimate are better because you can actually talk to everyone for more then a couple seconds and still have a good time. It is hard to be able to enjoy a large wedding. I am not sure about the outdoor part though. I think outdoor weddings are taking a big chance with the weather.
2006-08-02 04:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you afford? I have no problem with big weddings, as long as they are done well.
I think that some women are finally fed up with the crappy $2000 weddings with 200 people who end up eating costco veggies and potluck BBQ. They realize that the only way they can make their affair elegant is to decrease the guest list size. It's much easier to provide top quality food, good wine and drinks, and a beautiful setting when you have fewer people to pay for.
People dread weddings because they have been so thoughtless towards the guests in the last 20 or 30 years. It's gone from being a day to celebrate with each other to being the bride yelling "MEMEMEMEMEMEME!" So, some people rebel against that impersonal trend and prefer to focus on quality not quantity and treating the guests as what they are - guests.
2006-08-02 06:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big and elaborate if you can afford it. Small and intimate allows you to have a more time with the people who came to spend your special day with you. Outdoor weddings are becoming more popular because they are a little simpler than a church wedding, no a lot of decorations to put up. And if the weather is nice then it makes for a really beautiful ceremony.
2006-08-02 04:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people are just branching out to different types of weddings. Weddings are becoming a lot less traditional and more personal - and a lot of brides don't feel comfortable in huge groups or maybe they just prefer smaller gatherings. It's a very personal choice - whereas the large church wedding used to just be the standard. (This is not to say that a lot of women don't still dream of the huge church wedding, it just means that they probably really want that instead of merely being expected to have it.)
2006-08-02 04:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Greek Orthodox so we were married in a church with the reception right next door - worked out great for our guests (we had 135 people) and for us because we didn't need to rent a limo. I agree with you that women are wanting smaller weddings - I actually just wanted our immediate family to attend and that be it, but we compromised on it because we knew it was important to invite our families and friends. If he had invited everyone in his family, his side alone would've brought over 400 people. We decided to each invite 75 people and of course there are always a few that can't make it. I think a wedding should be whatever the bride and groom want it to be.
2006-08-02 04:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mergirl is right. A smaller wedding costs less, is more intimate. The money saved is used for a fun honeymoon or a house downpayment.
With so many not belong to a church it is easier to find a neutral place for a wedding and and officiant to do the job. :)
And there are alot of interfaith marriages, which alot of ministers will have no part of.
2006-08-02 04:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking on my choice -- my husband and I agreed on a small intimate wedding. we invited family and friends one year in advance to join us in Las Vegas for a wedding and reception. We had 50 people attend the wedding. Personally, I liked the idea so much better because I was able to spend time with everyone in the room and we were able to enjoy the night.
The larger the group, the more time the bride and groom have to walk around the room, and before you know it, you've missed half of your reception and don't get to enjoy it as much.
2006-08-02 10:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a small wedding because I understand whats really important and thats getting married to the person I love. I dont need 500 people there to celebrate. All I need are the people close to me. The only actual family I had at my wedding was my parents and my brother. I didn't need a bunch of people who just want free food and booze. I also wanted to be able to properly serve my guests...meaning variety of foods for dinner and free drinks of all kinds. More people today worry about a big party and getting gifts then they do about making their marriage work and thats sad. No wonder so many divorce.
2006-08-02 07:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women now and day's want small intimate weddings. Because it doesn't cost as much.and they want them outside because.most places don't charge you and arm and a leg.to have you're wedding outside.especially if you find a nice park or a beach to have the wedding on.Most parks just make you pay as you come into the park.but not to use the grounds once you're in the park. and most beaches are free if you staying at a hotel on the beach. because most hotel have a wedding package.And most of those don't cost to much.good luck
2006-08-02 04:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋