Last night my boyfriend of 4yrs was online when i went to the kitchen, I didn't think anything of it. When i sat down next to him, he handed me the laptop and told me to log him out before using it. But something told me to check his in box, (he was on myspace) and everything was deleted, so i checked his sent messages. And he had sent a note to a girl saying: Damn mami, I must admit you look sexy, holla at your boy!"
I called him over and said i had something to show him, and when he seen the page, his mouth just dropped!! I was soo upset, i didn't know if to cry, yell at him or what.... what do you guys think?
Honest answers please: Alot of things are running thru my mind, and i dont know what to believe. He says it was just a stupid comment, but that doesn't change the fact that he's out there looking, or at least attempting to get an answer from her.
2006-08-02 04:11:35 · 19 answers · asked by qtiebabie06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not good. if its the first time and it doesnt look like its something to worry about then let it go. but let him know that you will not forget that incident ever.
think of it this way, if you hadn't seen that note, would you have suspected that he was out there looking? if your answer is no, then its ok to let it go. but if your answer is yes, let him go.
notes like that could lead to more serious stuff and you know what happens next...
2006-08-02 04:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by r_y_s_s_a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend chatted with other girls on the computer for a whole year before I found out what he was doing. To me.. if you are in a relationship.. it should just be the two of you and both of you shouldn't want anybody else, but we are only humans; therefore, of couse we are going to look at others. When I found out though.. it did hurt, but I am still with him because I love him and I have to try to trust him again. Just do whatever you heart tells you to.
2006-08-02 04:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the man is a dog, but most men are. What you need to realize is that he is a man and though it was wrong he was just doing the man thing. if he really wanted to hide what he did or was worried about what you would think he would have hid it better. he does not think he did anything wrong or at least anything way wrong. tell him how it mad you feel. tell him that when he does things like that it makes you feel he does not care about you and what you stand for. tell him if he is not happy with you or this relationship then to leave.
2006-08-02 04:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret over it. He probably is just like alot of guys that like to talk to women on line and alot of times it is totally innocent. Besides he is with you right now. If he didn't want to be with you I would hope he would be man enough to leave. If you feel insecure take a look at your self and see what is up. I wouldn't worry to much about it. You could always message her and see what is up lol
2006-08-02 04:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's been doing that for quite a while and felt that the only way he could let you know was to be "accidentally" caught. If he really didn't want you to see it he would have logged himself out before handing you the laptop.
2006-08-02 04:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he jst sounds liek a very shallow guy..... i think he dosn't c it as cheatin but it shows heis lookin at other womenand mayb is after sank more.. i would liek u did confront him about an dask if he does flirt wid other girls... mayb he dos't find u that actativ ebut even if he don't if he loved u he wouldn't look and eshealiy flirt wid other girls.... and if he is flirtin now imagen wt he b like in few years time u relli should re-think if u wnt 2 b goin out wid a guy like that... and btw the fact he tryed 2 hide wt he did shows that he knos he done wrong....
2006-08-02 04:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sucks bad i know exsacly how your feeling, 8 months after i started seing my ex i checked his email on his cell(he sent them when we firs tstarted to go out), and there were like 4 sent messeges to thi girl he know, like ill call you get your astro glid ready and let me know if you want any sex favors! i wanted to die! never got over it! you will always wonder and i think men that rite or talk to other girls when there in a relationship are disrespectful asshole! sorry! and can not be trusted,i have a few friends who try to talk dirty to me and have girlfriends, one is getting married< i tell them to stop, its sad,who knows what else your boyfriend is
2006-08-02 04:28:29
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I think you should definetly talk to him about it...U do have a reason to be upset but it could just be a misunderstanding...Some guys just say stuff like that...maybe u should get your own myspace, don't tell him...just to check things out.
2006-08-02 04:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he sincerely apologizes to you I think it's alright. I think myspace is a place where people can act like someone that they really aren't. And that's how people get liked kkidnapped and stuff. But was it just like a joke that he sent that to her?
2006-08-02 04:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by cherrycola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a stupid comment too. Just look at what he wrote. He used words that don't exist and it seems he was taught grammar by an immigrant. Stupid comment written all over it.
2006-08-02 04:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋