No response to the R.S.V.P. also no gift either
2006-08-02 04:07:44 · 12 answers · asked by Patches 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, they may have been unable to make it.
2006-08-02 04:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sancira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that person should be invited. I know that not everyone is able to attend bridal showers and not everyone knows how they work. Also, since you didn't get a response there is always the chance that she never even got the invite in the mail.
So I would probably call her, make sure I have the right address and just because I tend to be really annoyed when people ignore things like that I would say something like "Just checking because we never heard back from you about the bridal shower, so we weren't sure you got the invite." That might sound petty but I'd want to make sure she knew I didn't appreciate that she ignored the invite. At the same time if she's a close enough friend to be invited to the shower then she's definitely a close enough friend to be invited to the wedding.
2006-08-02 12:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those two invitations should be completely independent of each other. It would be very petty to change a wedding invitation soely on the fact that someone flaked on a bridal shower. (btw, if a person doesn't attend the shower, a gift is not to be expected)
I would want to know why there was no RSVP before looking at the wedding situation. I had a situation just last week where not only was the invitation for the shower sent out ridiculously close to the date of the event, but I had been on vacation and came home only days before. Granted, *I* called to send my regrets, but if my travel plans had changed or if the invitation had gotten lost in the pile of mail, those would be legitimate reasons for not RSVPing. And I hate to say it, but far too many people today are lazy and rude when it comes to replying and deadlines mean very little to them.
2006-08-02 11:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, anyone invited to a bridal shower is among the bride's closest family and friends, so naturally they should be invited to the wedding. Don't take her absence as a lack of interest in the wedding. Perhaps she was busy that day, forgot to RSVP, or never received the invitation. Assuming she got the invite, it was rude to not respond, but still send the wedding invite. If she's coming,she will rsvp. If there is no rsvp, don't reserve a place for her at the reception. This way, you are in the clear by doing the right thing.
BTW: Caterers always plan for 10% more food and drinks than ordered. They do this for unexpected guests.
2006-08-02 11:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very poor manners to invite someone to a bridal shower and not invite them to a wedding. Granted, by not RSVPing they showed poor manners as well (a gift is NOT a requirement, it is exactly that, a GIFT).
Be the bigger person here.
Also, why has the shower been thrown if the wedding invitations aren't even out yet?
2006-08-02 11:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. As for not attending, don't take it personally. There could have been many reasons not to attend. And this won't be the last RSVP you don't receive. Don't be petty and use a wedding to alienate people. MANY people are simply rude about RSVP's and really don't understand how important they are. But don't write them off because of it. They just don't understand. And finally, many people choose to save the gift to present at the wedding. I would not expect someone to send a gift to a shower they didn't attend.
2006-08-02 11:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who it is and their life-connection with the bride. You don't want to start WWIII over a lost-in-the-mail invite - or a missed communication. With weddings, you should give the benefit of the doubt.
Best solution: have whomever threw the shower CALL the person to ask if they're ok or not and why they didn't come, RSVP. You'll get your answer - but come from the side of concern. For all you know, she's having cancer treatments....
2006-08-02 12:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by marina3029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride and groom would like them to be at the wedding they should be invited. The shower is a different event and should be considered as such.
BTW no RSVP is a decline.
2006-08-02 11:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you usually don't invite people to the shower that you are not inviting to the wedding.
2006-08-02 15:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Marygoroun(d) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude not to RSVP.
I would say go with what feels right to you.
If a person doesn't go to a shower, she isn't required to send a gift.
2006-08-02 11:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, maybe they had something to do,or maybe they dont have any money and didnt want to come with out a gift?
2006-08-02 11:16:10 · answer #11 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋