ok the girl is 13 im 15..shes young and new at this......she was all over me i asked her out and she backd off....she seems shy/nervous around me and doesnt talk to me the way she duz other guys....i dont know what i did to make her stop liking me..i almost think she does and is scared/ duznt know what she wants....but is there a chance she doesnt like me at all........cuz i know she used to ...and i did nothing to make her not like me anymore...what can i do to get her back......if i back off....and not talk to her so much......and she doesnt come back around what should i do??..i mean i like her so much...i will do anything it takes..please tellme what i should do and i have tried talkin to her..she says shes busy and stressed out..so what should i do??
2006-08-02 03:52:59 · 20 answers · asked by your mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've already tried talking to her more than a few times and she still is backing off, you might need to give her some space. 13 is young enough to where she will change her crushes faster than her underwear.
When I was 13 and 14 I had a few boyfriends that only lasted a week or two because I said I would go out with them before realizing I didn't even like them that much, I was just sorta interested for a while. Breaking it off sucked and kinda damaged what would have otherwise been good friendships.
So you might want to give her some space. Try just being friends with her, keep your feelings on the down low. If you're coming on too strong that might freak her out and she won't want to be around you at all.
If your friendship heals and you two are talking again, then see if the attraction is there. Who knows, you might just enjoy being her friend by then. But if it's too painful, then give yourSELF some space.
2006-08-02 04:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl who is 13 wont talk to you and you cant get her to listen then try writing her a letter telling her how you feel. She is very young and maybe her feelings for you is scary cause she has never felt that way before. At 13 a girl can be very scared of her feelings or even of getting hurt. If she doesn't treat you the same as other guys then there is a highly likely fact that she does like you but you also need to back off a little bit. Try writing her the letter then give her time to process her feelings and she WILL get back to you unless she really does not like you which I doubt at this moment.
2006-08-02 04:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_italia4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey give the girl some space - but don't back away completely...say "hi" when you pass her. She's probably just shocked that you finally asked her out. When she comes to her senses that her crush asked her out she'll be more loose around you, Then ask her out again...but maybe for a group date so you can get to know each other better and get used to the idea of dating.
2006-08-02 04:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Gurly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act like her friend that will take a lot of pressure of the situation and allow you guys to try and get your friendship back. Or when she backed off it may be a sign that she doesnt want more than a friendship from you
2006-08-02 03:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by aimlynsmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so since gurls who are 13 they are kinda shy , nervous , clueless..they like guyz but when they ask them out they back off it is just becoz of their age....so all u have to do just tell her ok if u don't want to be with me that's not a problem we can remain as friends but at least lemme know what was the prob at this point what u did unscare her away , n istead ov startin on eachother u have to talk to her as a understandin person ...
2006-08-02 04:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she is shy so she might really like you but just cant say it as youve said she is only 13 and is new at this.coax her go to her house and ask her to talk and then do something bigger like go out for a ice cream or coffee or something.When i got together with my boyfriend I was so nervous cos he was gorgeous n I was shy but as I got used to him I came out of my shyness hope this works!
2006-08-02 03:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you already tried talking to her but you have to beg her to listen to you. Tell her how you feel and tell her you really like her and you want to make it work with her. Tell her that your willing to do anything to make her happy. Ask her to give you another chance. Give her a flower or somethin to get her to talk to you. When your talkin 2 her be tactful and dont get angry. Tell her how you feel and hope she understands and takes you back. I hope I helped. Good luck!
2006-08-02 04:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just talking to her and find out what the problem is, obvious i know but its worth a go, you dont know what her mates or yours have been saying and things can get blown out of proportion, also dont pressure her for a more 'mature' relationship, shes very young and possibly a bit frightened of a big commitment
2006-08-02 03:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even despite the indisputable fact that your intentions were reliable, telling the girl you want that your chum thinks she is fat and unsightly gained't help her, yet basically harm her. some issues are only meant to be saved to your self. yet, i could go as a lot as her say sorry and tell her what you want about her and how surprising she is. Screw your chum. he isn't any longer a actual winner for my area.
2016-11-27 20:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
2006-08-02 03:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Shamus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋