i told my bf i didn't want to have sex with him, now he's mad, should i dump him?

Question

we've been going together for like.. a month. and we're still in highschool. he wants to have sex but i told him to wait. the other night we were getting into it but i told him to stop because i was overwhelmed and my senses came to me. he got really mad and stormed out of my house. now he won't answer my phone calls or anything. i want to dump him but i don't know if this is what a typical guy would do. i need help

Answer 1

gril dont do anything that your not ready oky.if he dont call thats fine thats lets you know that he just want sex from you and i know you are a good woman.you keep your ground up gril and keep your head up until you are really ready and be careful oky.some guys just want sex some just want a playmate.as for me bfore i meet my faincee i always aksed a man what he really wants.baby do you know wthat men want/ thats what you need to ask them.then that will let you know that they want the some thing or not.if you want to bump him its up to you and how you feel.what is your heart telling you?

Answer 2

Dumping him would be a major extreme. You're both in highschool and he seems extremely immature. You did the right thing. Never let someone pressure you into having sex if you're not ready. At the same time, why did you "get into it" with him? This is like revving up a motor on a car like you're going to drag race.

I could completely understand where he's coming from. He's probably frustrated, since he was "excited" and ready to go.

You're as much to blame as him in this, you don't start something you're not going to finish...but it is also your choice, not just his choice.

I am a male, and I can see both sides of this, and there are TWO sides to this story, there are always two sides to every story.

Can you understand his frustration? This would be incredibly frustrating for any man. I just happen to be a lot older and more mature.

I understand your frustration too. You are not ready. The thing to do...don't get either of you revved up. That's as stupid as him not answering your phone calls.

Answer 3

DUMP HIM
if u give in you know what, he's just using you and he will dump you after because he will already have had you, that's what they do. that's why he won't answer ur calls--if he cared about you, he wouldn't be THAT angry, so don't do anything you don't want to do. remember if u do have sex YOU can get pregnant and YOU can catch a disease and who will be stuck with a baby in high school? YOU--- not him cuz he will be gone
DUMP HIM, concentrate on ur studies and go have fun--u don't have to have sex to have fun in highschool, this is the time of ur life!!!

Answer 4

Well..................... all these answers have been "dump him,you can do better, he obviously doesnt respect you feelings, blah blah". Now to give you a mans perspective. WHY do all you woman not care about the guys feelings????, there are so many guys who put up with bitching and whining from woman and listen to their problems and such, and then the woman says OH NO im not going to give you what you want. Seiously woman are too much work sometimes especially when they suck the guy dry emotionally and then stamp all over hes hopes and dreams.

Answer 5

You should both call it quits. Think about it...you want to have a meaningful relationship and you want something to flower and blossom from it before YOU are ready to give in. You need to be with someone who will understand your needs and wants and make an attempt to compromise with you, not just act childish and blow up in your face. Dude sounds a bit scary to me, you should let him go and be safe...there are other fish in the sea. As for him, he's not mature enough yet for a relationship and he shouldn't have to be at his age. While he should be reasonable to some degree and not be a freaking a hole, he should find people that he can just plain get it on with. It will sastify whatever he is looking for until he finally tires of it and is ready to settle down with someone. But basically find someone who will love you and respect you for who you are. He needs anger management therapy and to be cast away by you.

Answer 6

Dump him, you deserve better. When you are ready to have sex with someone you love, overwhelmed should not be one of the words to describe it.

No this is what a typical boy would do. A man would understand.

Your calling him? He should be calling you to see how you feel. perhaps even sending you flowers to apologize for being so stupid and insensitive.

Answer 7

That's not what a typical guy would do ! He is just a type of guy who loves sex "MUCH" more than you ! And if you can accept the fact that u r less than sex, be with him (and be careful also he will dump you cause there will be girls out there who can give him better sex than u...always) ! And if you cannot accept that fact, D.U.M.P him (and find another loving-u guys, cause there will be boys out there who love u more than sex) !

Answer 8

Dear, dear, dear!
Listen your inner soul. Ask yourself if he is really into you?
Sex is a good thing, but at the high school age...?! Who will take responsibilities in the case of pregnancy? What will happen to high school diploma? You are smart and intelligent. Respect and protect yourself and your future... some men are not into the relationship building, they just need easy sex...
Your heart and soul will give you the right answer...
It is not about losers or winners, it is about what people expectations are for... before I would go into relationship with man, I would ask him what his plans are for the next 10 years...
it helps to understand what he really wants in his life and how your interests will combine together...
Good luck in your decision making, and happiness in love!

Answer 9

He sounds like an insensitive, selfish guy. If you do finally talk to him, tell him that if he really cared for you then he'd understand your feelings.

If he doesn't, then he's all about the sex. But maybe he's still "sulking" about not getting what he wanted. He might still get over it.

Sounds like you are a smart girl and deserve somebody who'll appreciate you!

Answer 10

a real guy might basically watch for You...intercourse Is A Mutual determination if your no longer waiting Your no longer waiting DONT DO IT! & If He can no longer understand That Then ignore Him...locate a guy Who isn't selfish & actual Cares...you mustn't be ok With Him Hooking Up With yet another female...this is basically incorrect...If He Cares approximately You Hell be happy to attend If no longer then you fairly be responsive to He basically wanted intercourse...Kick Him To The cut back female...Stand Your floor...