How do you mend a broken heat by the person who has hurt several times but you are never strong enough to leave but he always leaves you and comes back?
2006-08-02 03:25:49 · 22 answers · asked by halfbreedluiseno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to 'Bad Day' by Daniel Powter.
2006-08-02 03:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Danny T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him out of your life. That's the first step. Don't let him come back, ever. Then do something meaningful with your life that has nothing to do with relationships. Volunteer someplace - or take on extra responsibilities at work - or call an old (non-romantic) pal - or see a great movie or go to a live concert - or take a really challenging course at your local community college, one you really have to work on. Anything that distracts you from your pity party is good, but if you are accomplishing something at the same time, that's better. But you need to stay busy, get a life, and start feeling good about yourself before you get involved with some other guy, or you'll attract the same kind of loser.
2006-08-02 03:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes back, tell him you are done and let him stew for awhile. If you keep letting him come back with open arms, then he will see that there are no consequences for hurting you repeatedly. Also, eventually, you won't cry when he does it to you over and over. Eventually, you will be beyond crying and just expect that it is going to happen and that's not healthy. Believe me, it is the hardest thing to do, letting go of something that you love so much but is bad for you. But in order to keep yourself true and to keep your sanity, you will have to tell him, "I have moved on without you. I cannot keep building my life around you for you to just walk out. I deserve a life , too. If you want to be a part of it, then right now, you will just have to accept that I have other priorities other than you.". Don't give in too early, either. Make him sweat it out. Date other people, go out with your friends, catch up on all the things that you missed while you were in pain or too busy trying to make him happy. If he loves you, he will realize the pain he has caused and either rectify it or walk away to give you your space for awhile. If he is not in love, then eventually, he will just leave. This saounds dramatic at first, but if he truly does not want you, then it is better so that you can move on and find the one that makes you happy. I did!
2006-08-02 03:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Motochic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any death like stress put us through the following 5 stages:
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargain
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
I guess you are stuck at the bargain stage. Give youself space and time. During the acceptance period, or slightly before try to find anothrone. Goodluck! Take care (specially when depressed)
(If you want more clarification e-mail or IM me.)
2006-08-02 03:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, there is a bigger issue with you not just your broken heart. it sounds like you have a low self esteem also. you need to build up yourself confident and all this broken heart and the will to say no would be much easier. don't allow him to come back because you know that he'll break it off again and again. you're not a revolving door. do things for yourself, like pickup a hobby, or join a gym, sport. things that you enjoy once. slowly, once you concentrate on yourself, all this pain will fade away. baby girl, you need to boost up your self confident. it's important to be a strong person.
2006-08-02 03:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was cheated on by my last boyfriend of almost a year. And the only way I got over him, was hating him. I just remembered all the horrible crap he put me through time and time again. He hurt me and left me several times, just like you, yet always came back, and I let him. Hating him helped me get over him faster, because I wasn't longing for him to come around. I wanted him to feel as much pain as I was feeling. The last time he came around, I told him I was through and it felt good. Time is really the only way to get over someone. Yet, by hating them, it is much quicker and feels empowering!
2006-08-02 03:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sort of glad that this one was bought up because I am in the same situation. My advice would be just to try your hardest to move on, don't call him, ignore his calls, and don't give in to anything he may offer. It is very difficult to move on, but it is something that you have to do in order to be happy in the future. Remember, there are plenty of guys out here that will give you the love that you deserve!
2006-08-02 03:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and space mend a broken heart
Better fish is the sea.......go fishing!
2006-08-02 03:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truth is that he is not knowing tat he is hurting u
u could only wait or should hav the guts to say tat he had hurt u.
i know it will hurt him and ur relationship
i too hav a person like tat as my friend.
he is nowa days avoiding me. i know he will come to me 4 help in some topic
any way best of luck 4 u
2006-08-02 03:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda dont get the details but i say keep busy and go hang out with ur girlfriends.if they are really good friends,theyll help u thro it.good luck and i really hope this helps.a broken heart is no fun at all.
2006-08-02 03:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋