My friend has becomea devout christian. He used to be cool and enjoy watching movies, going to the pub and socialising, going on holiday, listening to music and all the normal stuff. Now all he does is pray indoors and when he does come out to socialise he's a different person. He used to be laid back with a good sense of humour but now he's an embarassment. He wears T-shirts with I love god and pictures of jesus and stuff on them, and he never talks about anything without relating it to what jesus would've done. The other day one of his best friends tried to push him in front of a lorry. I can't be bothered with him anymore to be honest but some people really have it in for him, should I shake the lord out of him?
2006-08-02 03:24:59 · 27 answers · asked by The 3 postmen of the apocalypse 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Turn him down every time he asks if you want to hang out. Eventually he's going to ask "Are you pissed about something"
That will be your perfect opportunity to say "you're not really you anymore, I'm happy that you're happy, but can you just be you without cramming the jesus stuff down my throat."
2006-08-02 03:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Allison L 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You wont be able too. Let him go on his new journey. If you are a true friend, you will be there for him even though his life has changed. That does not mean your friendship will be the same, but it does not have to totally end. He is willing right now to die 3 times if that's what it takes to get closer to the Lord. I speak from personal experience. I still have many friends who I just don't hang with anymore. ya, we wave at each other and ask how it's going when we are in the supermarket and see each other, but we both know things will never be the same. If ya can handle it; humor him sometime and go to a church gathering with him. If ya cant; that's cool too. Sorry you lost a friend, but he has gained the most important thing ever. The knowledge and love of Jesus Christ.
2006-08-02 03:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by greentree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him sometime and his true self will surface. It's something like when you have a new toy and you played with it everyday. After you're bored with it you will go find your friends again. He is just very interested in what he is doing and getting over zealous. But give him some time and you'll see. Being a Christian is not about just talking about Jesus all the time. It is also not about just being friends with the same faith people. It's supposed to be beautiful not being an annoyance. But at the same time if you're really his good friend then you should also tell him how you feel in a very nice and tactful way. Give him the understanding that he needs and in return he will be the cool Christian friend that you have. True friends should understand one another.
2006-08-02 03:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's chosen that path let him walk it. Hating him and pushing him around will only do two things: Make him stronger in his faith, and not want to hang out with you any more. Just because he's a christian doesnt mean he's a different person he's just trying to be a better one. Leave him alone and if your a true friend maybe you should try the Jesus thing out too instead of disuading him from something that could actually make him happier.
2006-08-02 03:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will never "shake the lord out of him." Leave him. Since he's born-again anyways, he will probably want more and more to associate with others who share his ideas. If he gets tired of his "new religion" or it gets old or whatever (I'm not saying this religion is bad, just that when a person goes from non Christian to Christian, they can become a different person) maybe he'll come back. If he's sincere, then be glad he has found what works for him I guess.\
2006-08-02 03:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by xenomorph_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly possible to be a Christian without losing your friends or your sense of humor, or completely changing your personality. But sometimes people who begin a new thing can be very annoying and self righteous for awhile. When my sister quit smoking, there was no living with her! Just be his friend, and maybe he will calm down in few weeks. Try to keep his "friends" from killing him. Mention to him that being judgmental is a sin, and that if Jesus had acted like he is acting, no one would have followed him!
2006-08-02 03:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Karen J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that this guy has gone fundy because of other issues in his life. Religion sometimes provides a shield from dealing with reality. The best you can do is just let him know you are there if he needs someone. He has to get over this himself. All you can do is be honest with him and not condescending. If he asks questions, answer honestly and let him know he can open up to you. Unfortunately, he has a ready network of people around him to keep him submerged in this psychological shelther. You just have to be the constant voice of reason. Don't try to directly convert him, because that will just cause him to shy away further and validate his growing distrust of anything outside his religious barricade.
2006-08-02 03:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great your friend has turned his life around. I praise God for that. But in ref to your question, it sounds like to me he is just so happy about the change in his life and the good news of Christ his wants to share it with everybody. I wouldn't say he has gone to far, I will say give him a chance to let the new life settle in a little bit so he will find that Jesus is peace.
It might help you if your a good friend of his to find out what your friend is so happy about .... What about being a Christian makes him so happy. Ask sincerly so he won't think you are trying to be funny....
I believe that will help both of you. Then he will not try to push it on you.... he will have no reason to he shared it with you and you listened ..... now he will calm down.
2006-08-02 03:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by R. B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look, give the guy a break. He's just acting the same way someone does when they find something that ignites their passion. Some get carried away with D&D, or Tekken, a new band, or a boyfriend/girlfriend, but for your friend it's faith.
Hang in there, he'll eventually cool his jets, and then he'll be thankful that you're still around!
2006-08-02 03:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Bobby E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is let him be and cool the friendship. People who convert to Christianity and go nuts with it can have serious issues. That in-your-face Christianity is more than likely a symptom of psychological problems that have been there all along. Newfound religion can make a person with low self esteem feel important and superior. Could be this is what he needs at this time in his life.
2006-08-02 03:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetchild Danielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is brought to the Lord,he is truly free.He realizes that all the things he had done in the past violates the temple of the lord-his body.Why try to change him?So-if you don't agree with his religious beliefs,walk away.Is he trying to push religion off on you?It says in the Bible that religion shall not be forced upon anyone.If he is an embarrassment to you,stay away.It is simple as that.Coming to the Lord is a wonderful experience,and it adds joy to your life.
2006-08-02 03:33:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋