This year has been really tough on me. And i dont know what to do. I feel horrible and misserable all the time. During January-March 2 of my uncles died. My dad almost got his arm ripped right off. And now we have to put my dog down and my newly wed cousin's was one week pregnant and she already lost the baby.
If God exists he hates me.
2006-08-02 03:22:58 · 22 answers · asked by acnhaze 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
The first funeral was closed cascet. Suicide. And the second one was too. And on top of that my parents arent just fighting, their yelling, screaming, and leaving the house for hours.
2006-08-02 03:34:29 · update #1
Btw im just 12 and all of this has happened. And my dads the youngest of 13 people...
2006-08-02 03:40:08 · update #2
You need to find someone to talk to. It's a lot to deal with, but there are others who deal with as much and more. God doesn't hate you. What you're dealing with is life, and it's not always fair and it's not always easy.
In the space of four months, I lost both my husband and my father. I have no brothers and sisters, my mother was already deceased, and I didn't know how I'd get through it. I did, and so will you. There will be happiness and good times again. But, for now, find a counselor who can help you deal with your grief and confusion. Also, talk to a friend. Just don't keep it in and keep it to yourself. You have to go through the grieving process to get better.
2006-08-02 03:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me apologize for what Big Nasty said to you. That was horrible.
You've been through an awful lot for a 12 year old, and I'm really sorry for you.
But 12 year old can suffer from depression just as much as a 21 year old.
Where is your Mom ? Can she help you out? It sounds like you may need some counseling to get through all this.
And I would think that at 12, you must have some friends that you could talk to. Sometimes that's even better then a counselor.It's very therapeutic.
Believe me when I say God does not hate you. You just need to understand that He has a plan for all of us, even though most of us don't know what it is, or understand it, or even agree with it, He DOES have a plan for each and everyone of us.
I can relate to why you think that though. There have been many times when I felt the same way. But when I feel it, I just have to remind myself of what God did for us in order to be here at all. He gave His only Son for us. Can you even imagine what kind of love that is? It's incomprehensible for most people.
Hang in there. Things WILL get better! Please don't give up on God, as HE will never give up on you. He loves us all dearly.
You and your family will be in my prayers today.
2006-08-02 04:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't hate you and you have to remember bad things happen for a reason. I didn't say we should like the bad things. My life had been no cake walk. My mother and father are dead. I live in a unsavory area, my son has a disability, my niece just miscarried, and if I told you the rest you would wonder how am I still going on. It's Gods love and helps that keep me strong to go on another day and make my life the best that I can make it. We are stronger than most people can admit, but were built for the jobs that God has us here to do. I wish your life and the lives of my children and my own were better, but there not. So let us look at how we can make a difference in our own lives so we can make a difference in others lives. God love you very much and everything that happens is for a reason. He knows the future, not us. Peace.
2006-08-02 03:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to some friends. You need to vent. God doesn't hate you, it just seems like you are getting more than your share of "bad times". Trust me, been there, done that. I have been down your road before, many times. When I am going through it I feel like I am in a pit and I try to dig my way out, but the hole gets bigger and bigger. What I did was find a good friend who would let me vent if I needed to, or just sit and watch a movie. I know this may sound weird, but talk to God. Let him know that you think this is a hard time for you right now. I heard a saying once that really made me realize that I am not alone in my troubles. It is: I know I will not be dealt more troubles than God and I can not handle together. You'll get through this. Just keep faith! I did, and I am now fine!
2006-08-02 03:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God DOES exist and He does NOT hate you. Keep in mind that you are feeling and experiencing these things indirectly and how it must be for your cousin, for your dad, for your uncles' families.
God allows bad things to happen in our lives because they will make us stretch and grow into someone stronger, wiser, with greater ability, and more capable of helping others who are experiencing the same things that you have already overcome.
Think of a muscle in your body, like your upper arm. You start lifting weights and you feel it burning. It burns because the muscle has been ripped, torn, broken, wounded. The next day it is sore as it tries to heal itself by building new muscle tissue on top of the old. You keep at it and work through it because on the other side of that pain is a bigger, stronger muscle that is more capable, and your ability is greater than it was before.
People will look at you and know that you have worked to overcome something difficult and that you achieved because you persevered.
Keep on truckin' and remember that God allows you experience these things not because He hates you, but because He knows that you have the strenght of character to A) get through it and B) help others later in life. This is the greatest evidence of God's love, that He gave this to YOU because you could handle it.
Hope this helps,
Rebecca
2006-08-02 03:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think that you have trials? Read the book of Job, there is a man that has trials. In any event, we all have it hard and God loves you he loves us all.
Maybe your Uncle died for to live would have made him suffer more. Maybe God interceded and made it so that your dads arm did not get get ripped off. that would have been worse right?
Maybe the baby was sick or her parents were not really ready to be parents. so far I dont see anything that actually happened to you directly. He is presenting you these trials to make you stronger. And in all of them, there is parts that could show that Gods will is to make things better. What if the baby was so sickly it would never have grown to have a viable and good life? You dont know and I dont know. But dont lose faith and dont beleive that God hates you that is not what God is about.
2006-08-02 03:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sounds like alot to deal with. I know that God has a plan for everyone. Were your uncles suffering? My aunt passed away 1 week from my bday in June and she was suffering horribly, and God finally took her so that she wouldnt suffer anymore. I have also had a miscarriage, and the doctors said that there could have been something wrong with the baby. Im sure that all this "bad luck" will pass and things would get better. There will be happiness in your life....IF you let it exist.
2006-08-02 03:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by ki77303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness you have had a tough time!!! Seeing a therapist is a very good idea, he or she can help you get thru the feelings you are having difficulty coping with and give you a brighter outlook on your future. You might also want to consider a short term course of a rapid acting antidepressant like Elavil, ask you doctor about that.
God does not hate you, everything that happens, happens for a reason, we are just not always privy to what those reasons are.
2006-08-02 03:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal all wounds. Life is full of hardships... but you would be amazed at how resilient people can be. It is especially hard when you are young... but it’s these hardships that help strengthen us to deal with the hardships yet to come. Life is not easy and the world does not owe you anything… But, if you have faith in yourself (and faith in God) you’ll find you have what it takes to overcome these hardships. Yes, you should mourn the deaths of loved ones and keep them in your heart so they may live forever. They would want you to be happy and carry on with your life. Losing a dog is very hard, but dogs don’t live long. You may never forget your dog, but if you get another you will find a great friendship with him/her as well. Sorry your dad got hurt. Just be there for him and help him find the positive things in life; like your love for him. Your cousin’s loss is sad, but I’m sure she will get pregnant again and have many healthy babies. Just be there for her… be strong for her.
As for feeling bad all the time… You are the best medicine for that. You have to find the positive things in life to be happy about. If they don’t exist now, then you have to set your path in life to a place where you will be happy. The worse part is being patient. Everything works out and you WILL get through every hardship somehow. You have to be strong and keep a positive attitude. You will find that, like Karma, being positive will reward you many times over. Your positive attitude might help your Dad or your cousin or your friends. In turn they will be dedicated to you and help you when you need it.
If you cannot possibly help yourself, then maybe you should get help, maybe from your parents or from a therapist. That’s what they do… they help you figure things out and get you on the path to happiness. I just feel its best to try and help yourself first.
Good luck, keep the faith and be good to yourself. You will be fine... tomorrow is another day. Peace & Love my friend
2006-08-02 04:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so about all the terrible things that have been happening to you. But I am a Firm believer there is a reason for everything. We may not known why now. Also I believe God doesn't give us something we can't handle. Things will get better. Learn for the things that are going on in your life. This will make you a better person
2006-08-02 03:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweetcountrychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋