If a person were reported, what would happen?

Question

Suppose a woman has two kids, 12yo girl and 5yo boy. Suppose she has a 2bedroom trailer and each kid has a room and the woman has her bf over to sleep with her in the livingroom floor. Suppose the 12yo has complained that she hates for mommy to have her bf over bc she doesn't like to see all that kissing. Suppose there is constant drinking in front of the kids and the 5yo wants to start smoking. I swear it. So if a concerned citizen were to report this, a) could it be anonymous and b) what would happen?

Many are saying "dont report", either suggesting I am paranoid, this is revenge, or there is nothing wrong. I will go ahead and add that if the kids get up to go to the bathroom in the night they cannot avoid seeing the mom and her bf....whether they are sleeping or dangling from the proverbial chandeliers. The bf is supposed to have quit, and I give him the benefit of the doubt when the kids aren't involved, but has a history of hard drugs, rape, etc. Where the kids are involved I think of them first, not his rights to be assumed innocent. The girl has started dressing sexy, which scares me- is this just being 12 and following styles, or is it crying out for someone to notice whats going on? I think my concerns are legitimate.

Answer 1

You have the right to put in an anonymous tip to your local social service agency. My thought is better safe than sorry. My theory is that it's better for social services to go out and have an unfounded claim than to let something horrible continue to happen. Depending on the severity of the situation, the mom and the boyfriend could be required to take some parenting classes and they may need to have regular visits from a social worker to check in on things. If the abuse were extreme, the kids may be removed from the home for a bit and mom may have to meet certain expectations before the kids can be returned. Remember, it's these kids that need to know they are in a safe environment and if they feel like they aren't, they need to be protected.

Answer 2

Yes you can report it and the child services office should keep it confidential. They will also do an onsite investigation to determine if there is a problem in the home and what steps are necessary to resolve the issues found during investigation. Would suggest reporting it so that the children can be taken care of first.

Answer 3

That lady probably really love her kids and to see the state take her kids away that would not be good. You must don't have any kids of your own if you too busy worrying about what she doing. At least she give them kids shelter and not hitting on them kids leaving them bruised. Leave the reporting situation when needed, such as physically abusing the kids, not feeding the kids, sending the kids to school with the same dirty clothes. Until then mine yours!

Answer 4

Suppose this is a story about a paranoid you. There would be a social worker ready to take the kids if they found it a danger to the them, so suppose you clean up your act.

Answer 5

It depends on the state you live in and how bad it is. The children may be worse off, because they are taken away from the only family they have. They will be separated from each other as well. It will get really messy and painful for them.

Answer 6

It could be annoymous but they prefer you say who you are.. Actually things normally get taken care of and you're taken more seriously if you drop them your name then if you're just calling. I'm sure they get dozens of complaints a day from annoymous people just complaining to get revenge at people...

It depends where you live and how "wonderful" your area system is.. Sometimes it gets swept under the rug. and sometimes they call the parent and schedule a home visit... Its their discretion as to what they do after that....

Just for the record.. if you (or whoever) calls and leaves your name..you can say please I don't want them to know.. but I am available for further questions.... I'm pretty sure they will keep you annoymous.

Answer 7

1) You can report it anonymously

2) A social worker would be sent to the home to investigate


In my opinion, it doesn't sound like abuse. How many parents do you know who drink in front of their kids? Or how many single people do you know have their partner spend the night...And how many children say they want to do something that is bad for them?

If you want to report it, that's your choice, but personally, I wouldn't

Answer 8

how can parents do that in front of their children.If you feel that this should be reported,then go ahead and report them.If the children feel that their mother isnt doing her job as a parent and drinking and smoking in front of them.Then that makes you think what else is she doing and what about her children.Are they being abuse?I never reported anyone,so I wouldnt know.But from asking some people that I know.I believe they dont tell the person who called on them.I think it would be stupid for them to tell who called.Then alot of Bull**** would start between families and that wouldnt be good.Good Luck and God Bless..

Answer 9

i think social services shyould become involved immediately!!!
this is not a healthy situation for the children to be in. it can be anomyous and the social service would evaluate the situation. if
i myself would do it with no hesitation those kids could be in danger/ not to mention an unhealthy enviroment

Answer 10

If you are really concerned, report it to your local office of the Department of Child Services. They are obligated to investigate any report of abuse or neglect, and these reports can be made anonymously.