this is my situation, my x and i broke up several months ago. we stop all contact a month ago, i really do miss her and will like to get back together unfortunately she is not seeking any relationships at the moment.
what should i do
should i contact her?
or let her contact me?
or let time pass by and see what happens
she scare to be with me because i hurt her so much
she said she still loves me and has feelings for me
but she s scare to get hurt again and that her friends and family dont approve of me she told that there was time she didnt want to listen to them and just get back together but she is too emotionally scare by everything and she doesnt want to go about hiding me from them
what should i do?? any suggestions?? thanks
2006-08-02 03:02:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a reason you both broke up -- so let the past stay the past. Move on and leave her alone.
2006-08-02 03:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone more time is needed here! If you were in the wrong and she left you, then you need to fix that part of you. If you hurt her in some way of course her and her people don't want you back in her life, that's what families do help and protect when they can. Why if you loved her did you hurt her, and why do you expect her back at all! If you know what you did was wrong ,a mistake, and are genuine in your love for her, then time and patience is needed by you. Good luck!
2006-08-02 10:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you will have to let time pass now ...give her that, and see if she comes back to YOU. If she does, then you will need to confront her family as to why they have the feelings about you that they do...and see if you can change their mind. If they have valid reasons for their feelings, then they are right to be protective of her, and perhaps you can change those things in your life that causes them to feel that way - if this girl is important enough to you. If they are wrong in their feelings - your talking to them and making them see why they are wrong (done in a level-headed way) may impress them and cause them to change their mind about you to the better & gain respect for you..and you'll gain her back that way. Don't ever think for a moment that a families opinion doesn't matter. Maybe it should and maybe it shouldn't...but it does..
Good luck
2006-08-02 10:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just leave her alone. Let her come back to you if that is what she wants. Don't pressure her, because that will make her resent you later. If it's meant for you two to be together, it will happen. You just need to give her time to get over you hurting her. If she hasn't forgiven you, then it's best to let her call the shots.
2006-08-02 10:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by bighampjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her let her go.
Before trying to have her back in your life,think about all the bad thing you did to her.maybe you should look inside of you and make it better by changing your personality.You said hurt,what is it?
Jalousie,possessif behavior,and controling ? 3 worst thing in a relatioinship.So be a man and act like one.(only an opinion)good luck
2006-08-02 10:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let time pass by and see what she does because you do not want to pressure her into something that she does not want. Just give her space and time. If you do contact her just be her friend and nothing more until she wants to be more.
2006-08-02 10:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost I think it's good that you recognize that you have hurt her in the past. Second, I think you should let her be. I personally don't go backwards. Especially back into an abusive relationship.
2006-08-02 10:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually your an ex for a reason.
But if you still love her and she loves you then you are going to have to prove yourself to her.
You have hurt her in the past and you are just going to have to give it alot of time and patience.
As for the family and friends not approving of you, well that is because you hurt her. They will come around once you prove yourself worthy of her.
But it will take alot of time. If you are sincere in your love for her then you will give her what she needs to heal.
2006-08-02 10:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay as a friend
you had earlier chose that person to be your friend because of something that you found spl in her
if she doesn't like to stay close to you,then don't force her into anything but least you could do is show that you still have the same concern for her
remember we are all social beings,emotionally bound to each other
2006-08-02 10:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Hemanth U B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For her parent to be angry you must have done something pretty bad, if you want her back you are going to have to earn your way back. Saying "I'm sorry" isn't enough, she deserves better than that. You are going to have to grow up and act like you are sorry and make her feel that you truly have changed and want to make it work.
It won't be easy, respect is earned not freely given and you need to earn your way out. You shouldn't pursue this unless you are 100% certain that you are willing to make this work and treat her the way she was mean't to be treated like someone you love and cherish.
Good luck.
2006-08-02 10:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋