guys.........i need your help!!!?

Question

ok, i just wanna know that do u'll really love girls for what they are or only for sex??
i mean i have many guy friends and i've seen most of them just date girls to get something from them [if u know what i mean]
and it really changes my outlook towards guys, bcuz i hav this feeling that guys only want sex and thats all that he wants!
And itz been almost a year and a half, since i've been in a relationship! so it really hurts me to see this behaviour of guys!
so do u hav anything to say to me, that could change my outlook towards guys!!
thanx, n luv ya!!

Answer 1

Well first things first.........you are 16 years old correct? Don't worry so much about "having a boyfriend" or even having sex. Most guys in their teenage years, are horny little bastards. You sound as if you are trying to find your soul mate at the age of 16. That doesn't happen. The only way to know what to look for in a guy is to get to know guys. I spent a lot of time in college hanging out (no hidden meaning here) with a lot of different girls and it allowed me to find qualities about girls that I would want in a woman for my wife. Take it easy and don't put yourself in situations where the guys are thinking you are going to give it up. Be up front with them and don't lead them on. Getting into a serious relationship at too young of an age is a good contributor of the high divorce rate. Trust me from experience, divorce is not something you want.

Just enjoy these years, the guys will eventually grow up and realize there is more in life than having sex. The first thing you should always look for in a guy is how he treats you. He doesn't always have to open doors or pull out your chair, but he he should be be interested in you, not just your body. Your interests, goals, etc. Guys your age are not interested in that. They want sex and sports, and a couple of beers when they can get their hands on them.

Good luck

Answer 2

Can you answer what girls get from guys? or what they want to get? I found every relationship is basd on "give and take" principle. Only some people are good at the math. But again not without risk. You can be a giving person. But, then, should you complain? Or if you like to take always, why the other half is with you? Its our common mistake that we try to change each other without understanding each other.
Finally, personally, I think, sexual enjoyment is a great blessing from God. There shouldn't be any strings attached. If attached, that means, we using sex for different purpose, it's a kind of black mailing.

Answer 3

I feel the same way ...except its about girls.. they are too loose maybe its from the guys that have done them so bad..

I cant stand girls that are loose like that I haven't been in a relationship since god knows when..I owe it partly to my shyness but also to the turn off of the current sexual lifestyle.

I think that we are losing self control when I see 12-13 year olds talking about girls like they are just there for one thing. And I just remember that they re going to grow up and thats the future.

I just go to work these days and focus on that and school cause im not even trying to get caught up in that. I get lonely and well I eat that cause I figure its better than that.

To answer your question.. theres good ones out there just hhard to find. Cause the market right now is not the best for them.

Give that dude a chance who isn't even trying to talk to you.. and see what happens I bet hes like me just tired of looking and believing that hes not going to find 1/10 of what hes looking for.

Answer 4

I grew up somewhat sheltered from the opposite sex...but of course became curious in my teen years, what intrigued me the most was a girls emotional sensitivity....its what I was attracted to not what I can see on the outside, physical appearance but their emotional being...so try not to judge all guys as being the same...there are some that care about you and not what you can do for them, don't create a dysfunctional situation because of those who react just to physical intimacy then an emotional connection.

Answer 5

May be its true.But it varies from person to person.Basically guys/gals both come & do try to find here on the internet someone with whom they can have a relationship.(u know what i mean).thats the reason some true persons cant find gud frnds as a gal is always in a dilemma whether her choice is the right one!But dont have such views for all guys mam as we true people also get blamed for this knid of views.That all i can say.Remember-to start a rlationship always requires trust.

Answer 6

i think the 1st thing 2 rember is guys like 2 show off... so they like 2 boast how they got sank when relli tehy are in the reationship 4 more than taht but ashemed 2 say it as they don't wanna look lieka whimp... also it depends how old u ras guys in teenage years ussauly are quite unmiture and finnaly the group of pll u hang around wid as there r groups of guys who admit that they are wid a girl 4 more dan sex... (Althou this is rare simply becasue a guy is afraid 2 look a wimp or gay)

Answer 7

Some men are interested only in sex. If you want more, you should stay away from them.

Some men want a real relationship. Look for this type.

For a hint about which a guy is look at his father, his brothers, and his male friends.

Answer 8

Maybe you are going after the wrong type of guy! The ones that are not the most popular or the coolest, will often be the ones that will be with you for your love. Guys like that are not used to returned love and will worship the ground you walk on.

Answer 9

most of the guys out there just want to have the sex thing and move on but some of them really want the real thing which is love ,it is just that you can find all u want you lose sometime and you gain some time
so many men are looking for ture love this days try and open your mind and you will find one

Answer 10

I consider myself one of those guys that was passed over by so many girls because they were all looking for some other guy, usually guys who treated girls like ####. I always called it the "Bad Boy" syndrome. Instead of wasting your time dreaming about some guy, open yourself up to just whoever will be kind to you. I consider myself fortunate to have found a wonderful wife who I treat like the best thing that ever happened in my life...because she is.