What are your views?
2006-08-02 02:45:32 · 36 answers · asked by GS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No! What can you be thinking, you're asking for trouble, and when it comes you'll have no one but your self to blame. Don't' even think of a casual relationship without your wife knowing. If you are thinking intimate all the more reason to break it off.
You say nothing about your relationship with your wife, but if you value her and your marriage ,you are treading on thin ice. And when it breaks someone is going to be hurt. Some men are flattered when they have the full attention of two others. It strokes their egos.
My view is that it's unfair to the women and a threat to your marriage!
2006-08-02 03:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can BUT you SHOULD NOT. You do not have emotional security nor maturity and will most likely make a mess of your relationship. I cannot understand why you made her an ex and again why you want to go back to her. Some kind of mental immaturity. You cannot handle the situation, I am sure. Stay with your wife and leave your ex alone to find a life for herself. Don't mess with the lives of two women.
2006-08-02 02:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what type of relationship your trying to have. If you and this woman have a kid or kids together then I can see you trying to have a friendly relationship for their sake, but if you and your ex have no kids I don't think you should be having any type of relationship with her. This is very disrespectful towards ypur wife. If you feel this way you really should think about getting back with your ex then. It wouldn't be fair to your wife. Put yourself in your wife's shoes and think if she was doing something like this behind your back. Not just with anybody but it would be with an ex. Even if their isn't any sex involved it's not right. I'm not here to lecture you i'm just giving my opinion on this subject. I hope you will make the right decision for yourself.
2006-08-02 02:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cannot without letting your wife know it. Because if you do she is gonna assume you are cheating on her, in which you may be(not saying you are), or you are really looking for just a friendship for the sake of a child.But always tell your wife the truth about you and your ex and your relationship. Be honest don't be a dog.
2006-08-02 04:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want another ex, I would let your wife know that you have a positive relationship with your ex. However, stress that you are with your wife now and that you have no desire to have anything other than a positive relationship with your ex.
2006-08-02 03:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by E Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should never do anything you wouldn't want your spouse to now about. This is called cheating. Even if you aren't having a physical relationship with someone else, you are having an emotional affair. If it's not okay with your wife, it's not okay. If you don't give her the option of telling you it's okay, it's not okay.
Keeping that kind of secret is dishonest.
2006-08-02 02:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No in this way u r not loyal to anyone of them.You should b with ur wife n forget abt ur ex,coz shes a part of ur past life.Live ur future which is ur wife.By keeping relationship with ur ex u will hurt ur wife if she gets to know someday.Truth is to reveal one day u cant hide it for long.Its gonna spoil ur relationship with ur family 2.So beware.
2006-08-02 02:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can. If you swear to just be friends b/c there are no feelings why not? But my parents are going through a divorce right now and the recent excuse of a reason was not of jealousy through ages, finances, or child rearing. No. they are getting divorced over a friend because before ---- was a friend ---- was a ---friend. With that said you decide, because a closeted friendship isn't a defensive in preserving your marriage
2006-08-02 02:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Psychia22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me don't get into something like that it will only cause pain and anguish for yourself and this other women if she finds out, if you all truly care about each other and want to be together they should get a divorce and then you start seeing him. Hopefully their are not kids involved. But try to back away from self-hurt. Love yourself first and then try to find someone that will love and respect you in a respectful amnner without lies and hiding behind it!
2006-08-02 02:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do that? He's called an ex for a reason. Leave the past in the past move on don't allow him to play you like that.
2006-08-02 02:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by tlnay025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋