Last night I lost it to my boyfriend. I am 17 while he is 21 and we have been dating for 1 month now. While in bed, we didn't speak emotionally to one another besides him asking if this is what I really wanted and to tell him to stop when needed. I have told him that this is what I wanted and honestly, I felt like I was doing the right thing and wasn't scared. I was more nervous on my behalf seeing I didn't want to go through incredible pain, which I did. After the sex, we played around for a bit and seemed like it brought us closer. He told me that he was worried about me and I told him he shouldn't because I am fine. Some friends of mines were emotionally paralyzed and regret it afterwards. As of now, I think about it but not to the extent where I wish I hadn't done it in the first place. The only thing that scares me now is that I feel perfectly fine and okay. Should I feel like this way?
2006-08-02 02:23:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel fine with it, that means you were ready. Let him know that all is okay, too.
2006-08-02 02:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It sounds like you had a perfectly normal and loving de-flowering. You feel calm because you know you made the right decision and with the right person and while 17 is young, your probably 3-4 years older than most girls are when they do it. And your boyfriend seemed to anticipate some of the things you may feel. GOOD FOR YOU!!!! Just be careful and only have sex because YOU WANT to and you shouldn't have too many regrets.
2006-08-02 02:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that i understand the question. If you are feeling fine about your first sexual experience that is great, that is the way sex is supposed to be. I really like that your boyfriend respected you and made sure you felt OK and was worried about you, it shows that her really cares about you. I think if your friends felt terrible about their first ordeal it was probably because they lost it to the wrong person and that they were not ready to do it. So if you feel fine now that's great and it means you were comfortable with the situation. I hope that answered your question
2006-08-02 02:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Munu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were ready. Losing your virginity must have meant something special to you because you obviously didn't rush into it (simply because there are so many girls out there losing it at a way younger age than 17!).
I think you are going through some normal emotions right now.
Tell your boyfriend you are ok and not sorry, and carry on from there. He sounds like a pretty nice guy, sensitive to your feelings.
2006-08-02 02:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were lucky. It seems your bf is really caring about how it affected you. He actually took time to cuddle afterwards? Wow, wish my first time was like that. You are one of a few that had a great first experience mostly due to him. Let him know this. Hope you both have a great relationship. Sounds good so far.
2006-08-02 02:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋