how to deal with this one?

Question

i am just fed of my life

my mother is ill (mental problem)father is drinking a lot becoz my brother has gone out for higher studies

when he was there he used to control my father but he is drinkingall night and yesterday he was not even able to stand

my mother does not want to cook and is always fighting with someone or the other. i and my father prepare food. but is is always fighting with my mother usually he starts and it ends into a war like thing.they both abuse each others family and what not

i miss my brother a lot, he was my best friend i used to share everything with him now i really feel loonely
should i tell him what is going on here
i don't want to make him sad as he has just started to make a career
my EXAMS are after 2 week and in such a situation i can't study pls help

Answer 1

My father was acoholic too. Where do you live there's any asstance program or AA? May a psychiatric for your mother and the services of AA to your father. You still having the chance at lease to save your father, mine passed away years ago, and your mother case need a little more of medical attention, but on top of evrything, please don't give up, God won't give you a task you can't resist, He'll be there for you. God bless you and your family. Besides the last, Why don't you mail with your brother? it may help.

Answer 2

I doubt that anything you tell your brother would come as a surprise. He left for many reasons. You should let him know because they are his parents also. I do not know how old you are, but you obviously have to remain there at least for the present. Your parents seem out of control. Is there any other relative who could help you by letting you stay with them so you can study and have some peace and quiet? Is there any friend or relative who could try to talk to either of them? If you could get away during the day or evening when they are engaging in these destructive actions, that would help you feel calmer for a least part of the day. Perhaps your brother and you could find a way to share a place to live. In other words have you thought about all the ways to help yourself through this. At least find another trustworthy adult to talk to about this, whether its a school counselor or with a support group. There are groups like this listed at times in phone books or associated with local hospitals or medical groups. It would be very good to focus on getting yourself into a better situation if possible. There are ways to help.
It is not completely hopeless.

Answer 3

I think you should tell your brother about it and maybe he could talk to your parents over the phone and he would never even have to come home.
As for you, I definately think you need to get out of there! Take yourself out of the situation. It's not your fault that they act like that, and you can't change how others act.
If you don't want to be away from the house for a long time, try taking your self out for a day! It is a really great way to relieve stress and you will feel great when you are done. Try going out to lunch and going to the salon and getting "the works" although it may cost a bit you will feel much better when you are done!
Good Luck with what ever you decide to do! I hope it all works out for the better!

Answer 4

Tell him whats going on, one day he will definately know the truth and he can get upset because you did'nt tell him. He can make the career at the place where you are.
But he will be happy only when u r.
Hai Sis... take the decision after deep thinking and if u r not able just close ur eyes and say "Jai Mata Dee"

Answer 5

Boy this sounds so much like the movie- Homeless to Harvard, which is based on a true story. Now dont you loose hope, help will come your way, just make you keep reaching out.

Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story
http://www.collegenews.org/x4285.xml

Answer 6

If you're not going to tell your brother then you need to take a stand and take control of the situation. You said that your brother used to control your father, well he's not there right now, so you need to fill his shoes. Your parents seem like they need guidance

Answer 7

Hey Girlfriend your situation is so touching,why dont you talk to your teacher or Social worker maybe they can resolve the situation with you and your parents if they fail to do so then they will take you and stay at a safe place until they can get help.

Answer 8

go 2 the park, library or anywhere else 2 get that studying done.

there is really not much u can do 4 them hun as they r adults n will not listen anyways.

do what ur brother did get the hell out as soon as u can.

Answer 9

Oooh my God , this is tight situation.Well your exams determine your future, its either you do it now or never, your parents wrote theirs and did watever they did, but you live for yourself my dear, and you determine your future.So , yes, though it is difficult , forget it and get to do wat is there.WHENEVER WAR BREAKS OUT , GET YOUR BOOKS AND GO TO THE LIBRARY , READ AS MUCH AS YOU CAN UNTIL YOU CANT RETAIN NOMORE.You will manage i tell you, let this be not your failure point , but, a time you are going to live and tok about.I am sure you can go through, be very strong.

Answer 10

If you could remove yourself from this situation, for a short time, I think that this will help.