What did I do wrong? :-(?

Question

I met this guy who seemed like Prince Charming. After a VERY short while he told me he loved me and he wanted to marry me. He even asked me what type of engagement ring I wanted. He wanted me to move closer to him since we lived 800 miles away. I quit my job (he said he would help me pay my bills until I found another job). Then two weeks before I was going to move he told me he wasn;t sure if he wanted this relationship anymore and we ended up breaking up and now I am left on my own to try to find another job, struggle to pay my bills and pick up the pieces of my life by myself. :-( What did I do??? Why did this happen to me???

Clarification: I did not meet him online. We met at a family gathering. His family and my extended family are close. He came up to meet, asked me out and called about ten times a days every day until the two weeks before I was going to move. His parents LOVED me and begged me and him to work it out. His older brother did not like me and I think that might be part of the reason why he started to act this way . ..

Further clarification: I did not say he was Prince Charming because of his looks, but because of everything he said to me.

Answer 1

First things first: You did move way too fast. However, from what he said, I can understand why you did the things you did.
Ok: Spilt Milk.
1. Go get a job; at this point, apply at a temp agency. At least you'll be earning money. This will help your outlook tremendously.
2. Call your creditors and without going into the details, simply explain that you aren't working right now. You want to pay your bills and work out a payment plan with them. Follow up in writing and PLEASE SEND VIA REGISTERED, CERTIFIED OR OVERNIGHT MAIL. Make sure you follow that payment plan!!!
3. Stop kicking yourself. We all make mistakes. Sometimes they can be big ones. You still have your health, your family and your ingenuity. It could have been a lot worse.
4. Get out and meet some new people, learn some new things, join volunteer groups. Just because you're going thru a bad time, does not mean that you should give up.

Remember it could have been a lot worse. Make this a learning experience, not a tragedy. Best of Luck to you!

Answer 2

Thank God he told you before causing further damage. This happened to you because you gave more importance to a person's looks than his character. You were gullible to believe a guy so much without knowing him in depth. Someone who moves in very fast can go out equally fast. A long term relationship needs time and insight into the person's life and living habits. Did you check his credit history or his strength of character before leaving your job? You need to do a level headed survey of a person before trusting him. You should never trust a person by his/her looks. There are so many people answering here who say that inner beauty is more important than external attraction. You have learnt your lesson the hard way and hope it makes you wiser in life. Treat your life with respect and do not jump into relationships at the fall of a hat. What have "Prince Charming" looks got to do with supporting you when you need him? Give importance to a person's character than appearance. Best of luck and wishing you a speedy recovery from this minor mistake.

Answer 3

Wait, where did you meet this guy? Over the net and have you ever even seen him bofore? And if u have did you go out there and visit or did he always come to you? There are certain questions u need to ask yourself here because once u ask these sometimes the answer is right infront of ur face. If you never went there, he might be dating someone else, or even married. Who knows, all i know is that there are pieces missing....and i dont think he was/is being honest here. Oh and hunny this happens to alot of people and in your case its a learning experience. U may never know why he did what he did, and maybe one day you might find out, but Take it for what its worth and move on. Pick yourself up, we all have, and go find a job. U have more to lose if you wallow in self pity so go out there, and remember time heals all wounds. Right now, its hard to go on knowing your heart is hurt or even broken but u will live and you will go on.

Answer 4

Unfortunately he is the lowest of the low... Was this an on-line relationship or did you physically meet? If you did meet did he come to you or did you go to him? Did you have his home phone#... Sounds like he may be hiding things.. Lesson learn.. before you give up your job & home.. besure you find a new job and home don't depend on anyone but yourself...

Answer 5

This didn't happen to you...you let it happen because you believed him...there are some guys out there who are just con artists and you fell for it...I am sorry but that is the truth. I recommend you get your life back together, find a guy who lives locally...or what you can do is ask the ex-bf for his address and tell him you wanted to send him something and show up at his door...and see his reaction...and tell him you have come to stay for good...
lol..and just freak him out...

Answer 6

First of all, i think you were moving WAAAAY way to fast, and i think the guy u refer to also doesnt know what he really wants in life!

Next time move slowly, and make sure you know verything about the guy BEFORE you decide to sell everything and leave your job!!

Let that be a good lesson in life to you!

Answer 7

you never meet people 800 miles away unless you do it online, so i will assume you did that
dont be fooled by anyone, he is married more than likely, and liked the attention you gave... then he got scared because you were going to move...
hes a weirdo, sorry it happened, dont look online for love

Answer 8

You mistakenly thought it was a good idea to agree to let someone else take responsibility for you. Avoid dependency on others, even in loving relationships. It is not necessary and creates victims. I know this sounds harsh, but you DID ask.

Answer 9

it sounds to me as though you have done nothing wrong it sounds more of a case of eith cold feet on his part or he was just to affraid to comit or he found someone else.Either way he should never have got your hopes up on a false promise until he was 100 percent sure that he wanted a commitment.I am a guy and I have never even thought about doing that to a woman as it is not fair to mess with a womans heart or emotions.

Answer 10

sorry to hear that. But you put yourself in a situation where you are depedant on him. And it sounds like it was moving way to fast.