Can somone help me with a dating problem????

Question

There was this guy that like me and i didn't know him at all and didnt want to date him but my friend told him i did and gave him my phone number and email. he emailed me saying how cute he thought i was and thought he was trying flattery to get me to like him but he actuallly thought we were going out. So one day at lunch i went and talked to him (this was lastyear) and met him and he seemed ok. and 3 days after he thought we were going out i broke up with him and said i wanted to be friends and get to know him better. well we were friends for about 2 months and i grew to like him. alot. and he asked me out again and i said yes. we were so cute together. he was so sweet to me and i loved it. and then school ended and over the summer we didnt see each other that much but we kept in touch until the end of june, then he stopped emailing and didnt answer the phone and was never home. so i broke up with him bye email because i knew he would eventually check his email.

well when school started. i saw him a lot for some reason. he was always in the hall wheni was. always sat near my table. and made a point to get in my way so i couldnt miss him. it was aggravating. well we became friends again and then i fell for him again. well i asked him out and he said yes. and we started dating again. and at one football game we were walking around the field and his friends came up to us and he just ditched me. and hung with his friends. i like his friends but they dont like me. anyways. he broke up with me the a few days before homecoming. at homecoming i found out that he was cheating on me with some girl i knew. he was on the homecoming court with her. its been another year since all this happened and he wants me back. i dont know whether to say yes or no because i want to date him again but i am afriad i cant trust him, has he learned from his mistake or not>? plz help!!! thanx

i ran out of characters to tyoe with when i asked my question. sorry. the problem is in the rest of the details!!

Answer 1

Grow up before you do any more dating. This is a bunch of childish convoluted nonsense.

Answer 2

I wouldn't trust him.

You know, you are a teenager and the chances of ANY relationship started now lasting for the rest of your life is unlikely. High school relationships are a lot like Hollywood marriages: they're likely to fall apart in a short amount of time. Which means, however, that if you decide to date him again or if you date someone else, the chances are you are going to get your heart broken again. So, it's up to you. Do you date him, knowing that it will probably happen again and you'll get your heart broken? Or do you date someone else knowing that you will get your heart broken? Or do you just wait until you are older and more sure of who you are and look for someone who knows who he is and meshes with you well, someone you could actually spend the rest of your life with and who thinks the same about you?

I admit it, I'm a bit cynical, but I stood on the outside looking in when I was in high school (except for one very short-lived, stupid relationship) and shook my head at all the tears poured for nothing. *I* knew the relationships wouldn't last, especially with some of the guys my friends had fallen for. Why get involved? Especially us girls when we are so emotionally attached to these things in the first place?

Some people say that the dating experience is important, but people have had long marriages without having tons of dates and boyfriends before-hand. A lot of people even think it's better to live together before marriage, but statistically, people who live together before marriage have a higher chance of divorce. So, that people think you should date a lot doesn't mean much in my opinion.

Answer 3

well, based on what you said, i think perhaps this guy really likes you. mayb he's starting to feel by the time that he's spending with you that perhaps you don't feel the same way about him as you said that you would just like to be friends with him. when you form a relationship when you're in school, by the time it's holidays it's always hard for the relationship to continue as you're cut up doing other things in your life. what you need to do is reach him, not via email. mayb you can get one of your guy friends to spend time with him and get to know him and see if he can get this guy to talk about his feelings towards you. whichever way you do it, you've gotta let him know how much you feel towards him, but first you've gotta re-evaluate the situation and ask yourself a simple question. do you really really like this guy? if your answer is yes, then you know the answer to your dilemma. tell him straight up that you want this to work between the two of you but that if he stuffs up, there will be no more you and him. tell him that you're only giving him one chance at this. if he really likes you, he would do right by you and therefore would not stuff up. if he listens to his friends, he'd keep doing this to you. let him know where u stand.

Answer 4

well its was a smart idea to break up by email but, you must still like if not alot a little. but you need to find a way to talk to him and figure out what happened.

i have a bf and broke up with him for the same reason and i broke up with him the same way you did. BUT when he finally IM me he told me yes we could just be friends but i didnt IM u b/c a family member died.

i felt bad b/c i really love him and i did that

so talk it over with him so you can find out whats going on and if you did the right thing

Answer 5

She wont ever like your chum. I certainly have reported human habit for an prolonged time and that i can provide help to already know that if she isn't attracted on your chum initially she in all probability on no account will. whilst she is fire broken and has low selfs teem, she likes the attention out of your chum. It does now not propose that she likes him, she basically feels greater advantageous helpful approximately herself. she would be able to have the skill to on no account like him, and regardless of if she became into feeling depressed and agreed to bypass out with your chum, she might desire to continuously be thinking approximately somebody else, and very probable she might desire to circulate away him latter or cheat. Your chum needs to look someplace else. there are 1000's of human beings on earth, why project with one that's now not even sturdy for you. He has to seek for a woman that has comparable acceptance as him. If he's rather sturdy finding, he can attempt with very sturdy finding ones. if now not, is larger helpful to purpose with females that are as sturdy finding as you're. they are going to savour you larger, and additionally think ofyou've have been given a a lot greater advantageous helpful dating/intercourse/friendship.

Answer 6

I think him dating another girl was his way of getting even with you. If you trurly like him I suggest you date this guy but this time get to know each other well. You seem to be moving too fast for each other. Go slow

Answer 7

So what is the problem? Is it that breaking up didn't devistate him like you thought it would?The world does not revolve around you! Sorry about the lack of compassion! Time to quit playing mind games with him!

Answer 8

hi ,fristly u r in love but u not want to be acceot this , becuse of ur some limitions , but u want try for meet him when get back then ur feel normal, or i u have decided about ur decision then think about ur dream next boy friend

Answer 9

you can date who ever you want to ,but be careful about dating the wrong ones. if you go out with him again he might cheat on you again.

Answer 10

You're fine. Date whomever you like. The ball is in his court.