i was casuley seeing some one for nearly three years he always told me he loved me but we neva got together formaly i thought it was because h e didnt want a relationship but out of the blew he now has a girlfriend we still were seeing each other even when he got with her but i found it too hard knowing he was with her but i love him ... help
2006-08-02 01:50:08 · 49 answers · asked by SMURFETTEXX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in the same position as you at this moment in time!! i was seeing this guy for a very long time sometimes we would class ourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend other times just seeing each other!! I never went near any one else during this time he didn't either (as far as I know) we ended this a couple weeks back he'd obviously finished with his long term fun!! I still love him we speak reguarly like we used to and see each other but we dont sleep with each other!! I never know what he thinks!! You need to tell this person how you feel confront him its hard to say but if he says that he doesn't want to be with you, you will have to accept it and move on! hard I know but you cant carry on not knowing and thinking what if? all the time! its not fair on you.. Does the girlfriend know about you? you will have to let me know how you get on good luck babe xx
2006-08-02 03:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Move on and don't look back you waisted enough time and although it will be hard to understand but chances are that you will never be in a relationship with him and you will always just be the girl watching from the side-lines.
You have sold yourself short for a little too long now move on you deserve someone who love you back,
You know the saying : WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE. that's what happen here you did it to yourself! Sorry if its rude but you are the only one that can change things by letting go of whats not there.
2006-08-02 01:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by a_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I went through the same thing but all you can do is let it go. The longer you hold on the harder it is to get over it. If he really meant it when he said that he loves you, the relationship will come in due time. Be patient, if you feel that this situation is taking over your life, then maybe finding a new friend is the best thing for you to do. Plus he moved on so you should do the same. Go out on some dates and explore your options and he will be jealous.
2006-08-02 02:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry babes but forget about him. If he loved you enough he'd have made it quite clear he wanted a relationship with you. It sounds to me like he wanted his cake and to eat it too.
Also the fact that he was still messing around with you when he got with her is a sign that he cant be trusted.
if you two did end up together the doubt would always be in your head - what IF hes with someone else!
Theres plenty of decent guys out there that will appreciate you for you - dont waste your time on this looser.
Sure you'll be hurt and upset when you move on from him - but youll realise its for the best. Good luck
2006-08-02 01:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didnt it bother you that even after three years you two were still not together formally. Sorry to break it to you hunny but i think he is the type that wants his cake and eats it too. But, you have a certain responsibility to stand up for your feelings, wants and wishes and say hey! i want more. So on that note, if you dont like this situation, tell him what you think/feel and if he doesnt want to be with you, then move along. U cant make someone do something or be something if they dont want to.
2006-08-02 01:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by dlite1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me someone was just bidding their time. Maybe the reasont that you and him never formally got together was because he felt that with you that he could go no farther. If he got this new girlfriend while seeing you he didn't respect you or what you and him had even if it was a casual thing. I would accept the heart ache and move on. Respect yourself more for moving on instead of hanging on. I know that it hurts but there are more fish out there.
2006-08-02 01:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by pacifia1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes! You gave him some goodies and he didn't want to commit, so now you need to realise he wasn't good enough for you and if he tries to still get some goodies while he is with the gf, blast his *** on front street talking about why is he still trying to get some from you, if you were the ****, then he should of been with you. Have some self respect-get over him and get a nice man that will treat you like a queen and want to be with you!
2006-08-02 01:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't love you and he's been playing you! Move on because he's made you look like a bit of a fool to be honest. You need to take a stand and not let it beat you! Men suck!! Learn it, live it, love it!
I've kinda been you, so my sympathies. it's one of the hardest things in the world, loving someone and knowing they're never gonna feel the same. But you need to break it and move on!
xxxx
2006-08-02 01:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Vix B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong. It is hard, but just know you are a good person and deserve better. Get him out of your mind - enjoy time with friends and doing things on your own. Stay busy. It takes time but the feelings will fade. And sooner or later a better match for you will come along.
Good luck.
2006-08-02 01:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for a human to love two people. (Full sympathy with your guy) Love doesn't mean social relationship (girlfriend / boyfriend) or physical relationship. You can still love a person without getting into a relationship. If you want a relationship, tell him clearly and act based on his response.
2006-08-02 02:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋